Sister here:
This year like just most people I'm on a budget. I'm giving token gifts (under $5 or made by me in less than an hour) to my friends, most of whom at this point, are childless people. Years ago an aunt of mine told me that Christmas was really for the children, and maybe that's so. She was referring to the "miracle of Santa Claus" and the wonderment that children experience finding gifts under a tree. I enjoy giving and receiving gifts, especially gifts that are "right on" and show that the giver really knows me, but I prefer to have a dinner party and cook a beautiful meal as my gift rather than battle the crowds or go into debt. So if you are wondering if I'm going to give you some GIFT GIVING TIPS, you are right, I am.
First of all, is there a Trader Joe's near you? If so, they have some $5 or under special holiday herbal teas and chocolate. Next, do you know how to knit or crochet? I know there's not enough time to make a sweater, but I'm making crocheted scrap soap scrubbers (presented with a fresh cake of perfumed soap) with scrap yarn. Most of my friends are concerned about their diet because of their weight or health and it's so tempting to make a variety of cookies from scratch until I think of how they will probably gain five pounds over the holidays without my contribution. I plan on giving little items for their collections when possible. Whatever it is they collect, I keep an eye out all year including at garage sales and thrift stores.
I wish you a happy holiday mainly because for many NMNK this is the worst time of the year, because there is so much emphasis on family and children. Some families really make their NMNK members feel uncomfortable or even unwelcome, so remember there is nothing wrong with staying home with some comedy DVDs and avoiding those people! Yours in spirit, Sister
11/28/11
2011 INTERNATIONAL FAMILY PLANNING CONFERENCE in DAKAR SENEGAL
Dakar Senegal is the location of this conference which is entitled FAMILY PLANNING.
I'm not comfortable with that term because it is QUAINT. Family Planning assumes first of all that you are a person who is going to have a family. Family Planning assumes that you are thus a person who does not have sex unless contraception is a family planning issue (that you are married or going to wait until married), rather than an issue of having sex without bringing children into the world.
I think they are trying to be non controversial using this quaint FAMILY PLANNING term when this is a very controversial subject!
In many parts of the world - and still here in the United States in most families - those who do not want any children and do something about it - especially if you have yourself sterilized when you are young - are considered to be abnormal human beings. Even abortion here is understood as "not the right time" to have a child rather than "Never Wanted A Child In The First Place, and Probably Never Will."
I'm not comfortable with that term because it is QUAINT. Family Planning assumes first of all that you are a person who is going to have a family. Family Planning assumes that you are thus a person who does not have sex unless contraception is a family planning issue (that you are married or going to wait until married), rather than an issue of having sex without bringing children into the world.
I think they are trying to be non controversial using this quaint FAMILY PLANNING term when this is a very controversial subject!
In many parts of the world - and still here in the United States in most families - those who do not want any children and do something about it - especially if you have yourself sterilized when you are young - are considered to be abnormal human beings. Even abortion here is understood as "not the right time" to have a child rather than "Never Wanted A Child In The First Place, and Probably Never Will."
11/16/11
ALONE BUT NOT LONELY DURING THE HOLIDAYS
MY NMNK Friends, I haven't posted in a couple weeks because my entire abode seems to be falling down around me!
Two weeks ago I intended to cook a wonderful Thanksgiving meal and have over a few friends who have nowhere special to go, but here is what happened.
First I put the heater on one crisp morning, just before I stepped into the shower, but the heater burned up enough dust that the fire alarms went off while I was shampooing!
I sprung out of the shower, found my footstool, as the alarm blared loud enough to wake the neighbors, and reached up and hit the button again and again, but the fire alarm would not stop.
So I hit the circuit breakers, which worked at my last place, and the alarm kept sounding, as well as the panick button. I got back up on the footstool and pulled the batteries out of the alarm. That worked. But what didn't work, when I put all the circuit breaker switches back on was the electricity. Somehow, half the outlets were no longer operational. You know how you walk around with a little lamp checking? Nothing!
Just to make it all more fantastically upsetting, my towel rack in the bathroom fell and hit my toe. I was simply removing the towels for the laundry when it fell, but it's metal and ooouch!
I did the laundry and when I put a dozen hangers loaded with clothing on my closet pole, the entire shelving unit came out of the wall!
I know you are laughing now!
A friend came over to try and solve the mystery. We went back outside where the leaves are all over the ground and did not realize we had stepped in dog shit. That's supposed to be good luck, right? Well, we noticed when we brought it in on the carpeting.
So here I am, two weeks later with electricity that is back on, and a lot of holes in the wall where the carpenter attempted to find pre-building code studs, that need to be patched and repainted.
Now I'm thinking I will just stay home alone on Thansgiving and make myself some TURKEY TACOS! I need a break! Sister
Two weeks ago I intended to cook a wonderful Thanksgiving meal and have over a few friends who have nowhere special to go, but here is what happened.
First I put the heater on one crisp morning, just before I stepped into the shower, but the heater burned up enough dust that the fire alarms went off while I was shampooing!
I sprung out of the shower, found my footstool, as the alarm blared loud enough to wake the neighbors, and reached up and hit the button again and again, but the fire alarm would not stop.
So I hit the circuit breakers, which worked at my last place, and the alarm kept sounding, as well as the panick button. I got back up on the footstool and pulled the batteries out of the alarm. That worked. But what didn't work, when I put all the circuit breaker switches back on was the electricity. Somehow, half the outlets were no longer operational. You know how you walk around with a little lamp checking? Nothing!
Just to make it all more fantastically upsetting, my towel rack in the bathroom fell and hit my toe. I was simply removing the towels for the laundry when it fell, but it's metal and ooouch!
I did the laundry and when I put a dozen hangers loaded with clothing on my closet pole, the entire shelving unit came out of the wall!
I know you are laughing now!
A friend came over to try and solve the mystery. We went back outside where the leaves are all over the ground and did not realize we had stepped in dog shit. That's supposed to be good luck, right? Well, we noticed when we brought it in on the carpeting.
So here I am, two weeks later with electricity that is back on, and a lot of holes in the wall where the carpenter attempted to find pre-building code studs, that need to be patched and repainted.
Now I'm thinking I will just stay home alone on Thansgiving and make myself some TURKEY TACOS! I need a break! Sister
10/29/11
HALLOWEEN CELEBRATION OF OUTRAGEOUSNESS
Over the years I've grown increasingly disinterested in celebrating Halloween, which is probably the biggest holiday of the year in the United States, except for maybe Christmas. Maybe this is because increasingly Halloween is associated with outrageousness rather than the spiritual time it's connected to - a celebration of the ancestors and those who have passed before us. Therefore, I am sitting this Halloween out as I have many years, staying home - alone , and enjoying some cider and harvest foods, while quietly reading my spiritual books. Sister
10/15/11
RALPHS GROCERY DISCOUNT CARDS CHEAT THE SINGLE : SISTER SPEAKS
I was shopping at my local grocer the other day, Ralphs, one of the Kroger companies, when they actually told me I had lost 5 points, one a plastic bag, because they had bagged my groceries in these plastic bags, even though I had brought along one of my own shopping bags! (The clerk had not noticed by bag and told me I had not shown her I had one in enough time... yeesh!)
You see I live in California where there has been legislation to reduce the number of plastic shopping bags due to ecological concerns by charging for them in some way. Consumers are overall not impressed. Nobody wants to leave a store with purchases unbagged but no one wants to carry around stinky wrinkled old bags either.
WHAT I SEE IS THAT WE ARE NOW PURCHASING BAGS AT A DOLLAR OR MORE EACH and these bags are MADE IN CHINA and do not look biodegradable to me! (Though some of them may be made of some recycled materials.)
Beyond an argument for ecology here, is the fact that I CANNOT BUY GROCERIES AT THE BEST DISCOUNT AT MANY STORES WITHOUT USING ONE OF THEIR ACCOUNT CARDS. THESE CARDS PROVIDE SO CALLED REWARDS FOR HIGH GROCERY BILLS PER ACCOUNT : they reward FAMILIES.
It was this account card that was being zapped five points and the clerk (that twerp!) was admonishing me.
So I said (and her face turned red when I did). "You know, as a single person I HAVE NEVER ONCE PURCHASED ENOUGH TO GET ANY RALPHS REWARD. I believe that every person who walks in here should be eligible for the lowest price without these stupid cards! I see no reason whatsoever that your company should be collecting information on what I purchase here! It's enough to shop elsewhere!
The truth is that ever since the strike a few years back when Ralphs got caught by the IRS having some employees work using OTHER PEOPLE'S SOCIAL SECURITY NUMBERS and got a fine of a million or two, prices have been up into sticker shock zone. While I feel for dedicated employees and I see the trick the company used to try and break the unions, I'VE BEEN TAKING MOST OF MY GROCERY SHOPPING ELSEWHERE.
The other day I learned that Ralphs has closed about 50 stores since that strike and that people are now buying good at places like TARGET and WALLMART as well as Trader Joes which provide competition (and no union workers).
Trader Joes is my favorite for high quality basic items (I can't afford their fancy stuff) AND FOR PAYING THEIR EMPLOYEES WELL!
As the SINGLE (and unmarried) who are self supporting and have a household of ONE, WE ARE OFTEN NOT TREATED WELL AS CONSUMERS. But really, why does Ralphs or any other company need to know your name, address, phone number, demographic information, and that you do or do not buy... sanitary napkins, beer, canned chili, People magazine, or anything else!? in order to offer their lowest prices? Once in a while a coupon spits out of the register for something I bought or they want me to buy. I've gotten those intelligent coupons elsewhere without such a card.
NMNK need to speak up as consumers and on the spot.
You see I live in California where there has been legislation to reduce the number of plastic shopping bags due to ecological concerns by charging for them in some way. Consumers are overall not impressed. Nobody wants to leave a store with purchases unbagged but no one wants to carry around stinky wrinkled old bags either.
WHAT I SEE IS THAT WE ARE NOW PURCHASING BAGS AT A DOLLAR OR MORE EACH and these bags are MADE IN CHINA and do not look biodegradable to me! (Though some of them may be made of some recycled materials.)
Beyond an argument for ecology here, is the fact that I CANNOT BUY GROCERIES AT THE BEST DISCOUNT AT MANY STORES WITHOUT USING ONE OF THEIR ACCOUNT CARDS. THESE CARDS PROVIDE SO CALLED REWARDS FOR HIGH GROCERY BILLS PER ACCOUNT : they reward FAMILIES.
It was this account card that was being zapped five points and the clerk (that twerp!) was admonishing me.
So I said (and her face turned red when I did). "You know, as a single person I HAVE NEVER ONCE PURCHASED ENOUGH TO GET ANY RALPHS REWARD. I believe that every person who walks in here should be eligible for the lowest price without these stupid cards! I see no reason whatsoever that your company should be collecting information on what I purchase here! It's enough to shop elsewhere!
The truth is that ever since the strike a few years back when Ralphs got caught by the IRS having some employees work using OTHER PEOPLE'S SOCIAL SECURITY NUMBERS and got a fine of a million or two, prices have been up into sticker shock zone. While I feel for dedicated employees and I see the trick the company used to try and break the unions, I'VE BEEN TAKING MOST OF MY GROCERY SHOPPING ELSEWHERE.
The other day I learned that Ralphs has closed about 50 stores since that strike and that people are now buying good at places like TARGET and WALLMART as well as Trader Joes which provide competition (and no union workers).
Trader Joes is my favorite for high quality basic items (I can't afford their fancy stuff) AND FOR PAYING THEIR EMPLOYEES WELL!
As the SINGLE (and unmarried) who are self supporting and have a household of ONE, WE ARE OFTEN NOT TREATED WELL AS CONSUMERS. But really, why does Ralphs or any other company need to know your name, address, phone number, demographic information, and that you do or do not buy... sanitary napkins, beer, canned chili, People magazine, or anything else!? in order to offer their lowest prices? Once in a while a coupon spits out of the register for something I bought or they want me to buy. I've gotten those intelligent coupons elsewhere without such a card.
NMNK need to speak up as consumers and on the spot.
10/9/11
THE DISABLED : ANOTHER CATEGORY OF NMNK!
The other day I realized that I have devoted no time on this blog to THE DISABLED. Now we know that some disabled people are having relationships and getting married. BUT WHEN I THOUGHT ABOUT IT, I realized that many disabled people are ALONE (and MAYBE LONELY TOO) because - sad but true - being disabled is being disadvantaged, often economically.
Under the title of this blog I say AN INTENTIONAL COMMUNITY. I also say that NMNK is a lifestyle by choice or by fate.
And when you are born or become disabled, I think it's tougher in general to have a full life.
I know there are some disabled people out there who are showing us that is not so.
I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU IF YOU ARE A NMNK DISABLED PERSON!
I want to know what your life is like!
Sister
Under the title of this blog I say AN INTENTIONAL COMMUNITY. I also say that NMNK is a lifestyle by choice or by fate.
And when you are born or become disabled, I think it's tougher in general to have a full life.
I know there are some disabled people out there who are showing us that is not so.
I WANT TO HEAR FROM YOU IF YOU ARE A NMNK DISABLED PERSON!
I want to know what your life is like!
Sister
9/15/11
DO YOU THINK ASTROLOGY HAS ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU BEING SINGLE?
Sister here: I was wondering if anyone out there thinks that their astrology - fate - has everything to do with being NMNK. Would like to hear from you!
8/15/11
ZEDGE HAS SOME "ALONE NOT LONELY" IMAGE DOWNLOADS FOR YOUR CELL
Just checking for Zedge to see if there were any cool images to download as wallpaper for my cell and they have some under ALONE BUT NOT LONELY or ALONE NOT LONELY!
8/2/11
NEVER MARRIED CHILDLESS WOMEN IN AUSTRALIA
The data is from about 2006:
"A growing proportion of women reach older age without having married or having children. Assumptions that these older women are lonely, impoverished, and high users of social and health services are based on little evidence. This paper uses data from the Older cohort of the Australian Longitudinal Study on Women's Health to describe self-reported demographics, physical and emotional health, and use of services among 10,108 women aged 73-78, of whom 2.7% are never-married and childless. The most striking characteristic of this group is their high levels of education, which are associated with fewer reported financial difficulties and higher rates of private health insurance. There are few differences in self-reported physical or emotional health or use of health services between these and other groups of older women. Compared with older married women with children, they make higher use of formal services such as home maintenance and meal services, and are also more likely to provide volunteer services and belong to social groups. Overall, there is no evidence to suggest that these women are a "problem" group. Rather, it seems that their life experiences and opportunities prepare them for a successful and productive older age. "
"A growing proportion of women reach older age without having married or having children. Assumptions that these older women are lonely, impoverished, and high users of social and health services are based on little evidence. This paper uses data from the Older cohort of the Australian Longitudinal Study on Women's Health to describe self-reported demographics, physical and emotional health, and use of services among 10,108 women aged 73-78, of whom 2.7% are never-married and childless. The most striking characteristic of this group is their high levels of education, which are associated with fewer reported financial difficulties and higher rates of private health insurance. There are few differences in self-reported physical or emotional health or use of health services between these and other groups of older women. Compared with older married women with children, they make higher use of formal services such as home maintenance and meal services, and are also more likely to provide volunteer services and belong to social groups. Overall, there is no evidence to suggest that these women are a "problem" group. Rather, it seems that their life experiences and opportunities prepare them for a successful and productive older age. "
6/8/11
BITCH MAGAZINE BECAUSE YOU USE YOUR BRAINS OPINION ON WHERE ARE THE CHILDFREE ROLE MODELS
Brittany writes about a recent movie's portrayal of the choice to be childfree... Bitch Magazine... ? Go ahead and link to her opinion piece (with video) and a stream of comments...
OK I never did like it when a woman called herself a "chick" or a "bitch." No more than I like it when I hear black people calling each other "nigger." Sister
OK I never did like it when a woman called herself a "chick" or a "bitch." No more than I like it when I hear black people calling each other "nigger." Sister
5/18/11
NMNK SISTER CAN'T FIGURE THE ARNOLDS OF THIS WORLD
Sister here: I'm listening to all the breaking news about ARNOLD SCHWARZENEGGER (official site linked above - I note that he is NOT wearing a WEDDING RING) and asking myself WHY when he was PLAYING he didn't use contraception! If a man who has fathered four children (and knows he's fertile) and a woman who has mothered three children (and knows she's fertile) engage in an affair, an affair which could ruin a marriage (or two), careers, etc, etc, etc, WHY WOULD THEY NOT VERY CAREFULLY and ON PURPOSE choose to PREVENT a conception?
This is a true mystery to me!
Yes I know contraception isn't perfect. But it's nearer perfect when you combine methods. Such as using condoms along with any other method.
I feel for the child who is now going to be hunted by the media!
This is a true mystery to me!
Yes I know contraception isn't perfect. But it's nearer perfect when you combine methods. Such as using condoms along with any other method.
I feel for the child who is now going to be hunted by the media!
5/14/11
ALTERNET on WOMEN WHO CHOSE STERILIZATION BEFORE THEY HAD ANY CHILDREN
You can link to a good 2006 article here about women who tied their tubes before they ever had any children, knowing they were not the mommy type. I wonder how many men do so! More ought to! There are just too many men who are irresponsible about their sexuality and their fertility and as a result their parental duty.
5/7/11
LINK TO CHILDLESS.COM. AU
LIFE WITHOUT BABY is a good networking opportunity for NMNK!
“Who's going to take care of you when you're old?”
"This is one of those arguments that's easy to shut down if anyone suggests it as a reason for having children. One peek in your local nursing home, or frankly, on the streets of any major city, will give you all the evidence you need that having children is no guarantee of care in your old age. But with all possibility removed, do you have plans for your later years?"
There are two links on this post, for the same writer, and she is very insightful. One above and one, on wordpress, here : http://lifewithoutbaby.wordpress.com/page/9/
“Who's going to take care of you when you're old?”
"This is one of those arguments that's easy to shut down if anyone suggests it as a reason for having children. One peek in your local nursing home, or frankly, on the streets of any major city, will give you all the evidence you need that having children is no guarantee of care in your old age. But with all possibility removed, do you have plans for your later years?"
There are two links on this post, for the same writer, and she is very insightful. One above and one, on wordpress, here : http://lifewithoutbaby.wordpress.com/page/9/
5/3/11
MAY IS HAPPY TO BE INFERTILE MONTH
Are you HAPPY that you are infertile?
Is this your natural state or did you do it on purpose?
Happily Infertile defies all the emphasis on Motherhood at (almost) any cost. These days there is so much focus on celebrities and their adoptions and baby bumps. There are endless sites on the web determined to ease your pain of being infertile ("Can your marriage survive infertility." "Is this God's will? - a Cross to Bear?")
THIS IS TO LET THOSE OF YOU DESPERATE TO HAVE A BABY that there are people on this planet who are INFERTILE and HAPPY ABOUT IT. (Some of them think this is God's will too!)
Are you happy and you know it, never mind?
Is this your natural state or did you do it on purpose?
Happily Infertile defies all the emphasis on Motherhood at (almost) any cost. These days there is so much focus on celebrities and their adoptions and baby bumps. There are endless sites on the web determined to ease your pain of being infertile ("Can your marriage survive infertility." "Is this God's will? - a Cross to Bear?")
THIS IS TO LET THOSE OF YOU DESPERATE TO HAVE A BABY that there are people on this planet who are INFERTILE and HAPPY ABOUT IT. (Some of them think this is God's will too!)
Are you happy and you know it, never mind?
4/27/11
ASEXUAL CELEBRITIES ? OPRAH? MICHEAL JACKSON? LADY GAGA?
Celebrities have no private lives really, unless they make a real effort to hide out, which some do by owning huge homes and staying in them. Reading over various posts on the net today, I learned that Brooke Shields said that Michael Jackson was naturally asexual. Other posts debate about Oprah Winfrey as an explanation for her NMNK status. Lady Gaga just put out a hit song called "Born This Way" with a video that is highly sexual, but they say she is celibate not asexual.
But guess what? YOU CAN STILL GET MARRIED and YOU CAN STILL HAVE CHILDREN or ADOPT OR RAISE CHILDREN and be asexual.
I would love to know how many asexual people do just that!
But guess what? YOU CAN STILL GET MARRIED and YOU CAN STILL HAVE CHILDREN or ADOPT OR RAISE CHILDREN and be asexual.
I would love to know how many asexual people do just that!
UPDATE October 2022 I've decided that Lady Gaga isn't asexual... but as I look back at this 10 year old post, I realize that very few celebrities admit to not having sexual feelings.
4/24/11
HOW DO ASEXUAL PEOPLE COPE WITH FERTILITY SEASON? (SPRING - EASTER)
Asexual people must just love SPRING FERTILITY SEASON.
Today is Easter and what are the symbols?
Bunnies (no jokes about being reincarnated in Minnesota!)
Newly hatched chicks (dyed with food coloring?)
Eggs - colored red in many ethnicities ;Pagan Prosperity!
Do you know that some people think ASEXUAL people are ROBOTIC?!
Would love your comments!
Sister
Today is Easter and what are the symbols?
Bunnies (no jokes about being reincarnated in Minnesota!)
Newly hatched chicks (dyed with food coloring?)
Eggs - colored red in many ethnicities ;Pagan Prosperity!
Do you know that some people think ASEXUAL people are ROBOTIC?!
Would love your comments!
Sister
4/10/11
ASEXUAL EXPLORATIONS ; LOTS OF GREAT INFORMATION HERE!
THIS SITE ASEXUAL EXPLORATIONS is probably one of the very best I found...
4/2/11
ASEXUAL (AS IN NOT MOTIVATED BY SEX) MONTH
Checking out to see how NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS is slowly rising in the ranks on Google, I noticed the ASEXUAL page coming up... as a Sexual orientation except that you may have little to no desire for sex, which means that you always relate to men or women as friends. Therefore you are not exactly abstaining from sex like a celibate might. Various studies mine ASEXUALITY as being abnormal and say that maybe one person in a hundred is this way.
I would love to hear from anyone who defines themselves this way!
I would love to hear from anyone who defines themselves this way!
3/27/11
SISTER HAS A QUESTION : WHAT ARE YOUR FAVORITE ALONE ACTIVITIES?
Is being alone a time to SLEEP? COOK? READ? INDULGE IN HOBBIES?
3/11/11
300 MILLION AMERICANS and WORKAHOLICS ARE ALONE
American culture makes it easy to be isolated. The average American has only 2 friends who they can confide... and more people than ever say they have no Confidant.
3/7/11
SISTER SPEAKS : I LOVE SOLITUDE and IT'S DIFFICULT TO FIND
Don't know about you, but I love solitude. I love my own company. I'm not a true "loner" because when I'm ready for conversation I go out to a coffee house and stir some up. I love music but not bars or clubs. Big noisy parties are not for me. I like a small dinner party. And Privacy.
WHAT ABOUT YOU?
WHAT ABOUT YOU?
2/28/11
SISTER HAS A QUESTION : DO YOU SLEEP AROUND AND HATE IT?
Some of you may have slept around or be sleeping around now and HATE IT!
It's assumed that if you do you must LOVE it!
Are you the exception?
If you hate it, why do you do it?
It's assumed that if you do you must LOVE it!
Are you the exception?
If you hate it, why do you do it?
2/18/11
2/14/11
A VALENTINES DAY WEDDING CANCELLED!
Sister here! It has happened to a friend. She decided last year that she was going to get married this year. She said that God had given her visions and had ordained that she marry. Well, a mutual friend (who had a long distance relationship at the time, an engagement) was her first target. It didn't work out because he went on the road. Then she met a much younger man. How much younger? Let's say less that 20 but more than 15 years younger. And out of a rehab when she herself has never had an addiction. After several months of dating she determined that this was the man who God had planned for her. But her siblings objected to the man and the speed of the engagement. For her the engagement meant that it was OK to have sex.
Fast forward to about a month ago when she announced that another year had gone by and for sure the two of them were getting married. ON VALENTINE'S DAY. Considering that they had broken up only recently when she discovered that he had broken his sobriety, I was shocked.
But you want to be happy for someone else when they find LOVE right? It turned out that trying to find a minister and a place to hold the wedding at the last minute is near impossible, because VALENTINES DAY is a POPULAR DAY to be married! And it turned out that his drinking, that break in sobriety, was not a one time mess up but the start of a lot of partying, particularily as the wedding day got closer. Let's face it. He can't face life without a drink. Even the prospect of marrying her was not cheering enough.
So the wedding is cancelled. She's probably smart not to go forward with this wedding, or this relationship, and I feel for her, because she is laying in bed crying and depressed!
But this is what happens when you are DESPERATE to be married and you make the very next person who comes into your life MR or MRS RIGHT!
Sister
Fast forward to about a month ago when she announced that another year had gone by and for sure the two of them were getting married. ON VALENTINE'S DAY. Considering that they had broken up only recently when she discovered that he had broken his sobriety, I was shocked.
But you want to be happy for someone else when they find LOVE right? It turned out that trying to find a minister and a place to hold the wedding at the last minute is near impossible, because VALENTINES DAY is a POPULAR DAY to be married! And it turned out that his drinking, that break in sobriety, was not a one time mess up but the start of a lot of partying, particularily as the wedding day got closer. Let's face it. He can't face life without a drink. Even the prospect of marrying her was not cheering enough.
So the wedding is cancelled. She's probably smart not to go forward with this wedding, or this relationship, and I feel for her, because she is laying in bed crying and depressed!
But this is what happens when you are DESPERATE to be married and you make the very next person who comes into your life MR or MRS RIGHT!
Sister
2/11/11
2010 NATIONAL SEX SURVEY !
The CENTER FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROMOTION is behind this survey, which made the news as the largest survey in many years. Click to the link and then, if you want to, click to the graphs that show, by age category what sexual activities were reported by men and women (not identified as straight or gay).
2/1/11
PLAYBOY and PLAYGIRL MONTH
Sister here: Let me tell you about a casual platonic friend I have, who I'll call Jay, one of those NMNK who's a PLAYBOY. (I want to avoid the term PLAYER here because it has come to mean PIMP. I'm not talking pimps or prostitution here, I'm talking about promiscuity, which seems to be indulged in for fun, without abusing the lover in any way!)
When you know how Jay lives, loosing his virginity young and never since celibate, often in love but rarely moving a relationship into what he calls "getting stale," you have met the consummate PLAYBOY. I have yet to hear him talk negatively about any of the women he's been involved with though he does LET THEM GO! When he talks about enjoying sex, he talks about how beautiful women are, how good they smell, and how, after an orgasm, he loves to just look into their eyes.
Jay is almost 42 and has never been married and has no known children, despite the fact that he has, for years, had at least four three-month-long relationships a year, and is often sleeping with more than one woman at a time; you'd expect that someone's contraception would have failed by now. He is handsome, charming, talented, and goes through bouts of being penniless, but women don't seem to care. They are willing to pay for dates, buy him presents, and let him share their apartments without paying rent. Those women are PLAYGIRLS too!
To be fair, we have to devote a month to those NMNKs who ARE PLAYBOYS (and PLAYGIRLS) like Jay! These are people who do not seem to be easy come easy go!
Where to start?
It seems that many people, usually in their youth, make PLAY an experience BEFORE finding a life partner or "settling." Many people believe it is only through playing they will meet such a person!
Is Jay a heartbreaker, "in love with love?, a man who "really loves women?" A bum? What about the women he gets involved with, several who have also been honest about being involved with other men at the same time!
We'd like to hear from the PLAYBOYS and PLAYGIRLS out there!
Sister
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When you know how Jay lives, loosing his virginity young and never since celibate, often in love but rarely moving a relationship into what he calls "getting stale," you have met the consummate PLAYBOY. I have yet to hear him talk negatively about any of the women he's been involved with though he does LET THEM GO! When he talks about enjoying sex, he talks about how beautiful women are, how good they smell, and how, after an orgasm, he loves to just look into their eyes.
Jay is almost 42 and has never been married and has no known children, despite the fact that he has, for years, had at least four three-month-long relationships a year, and is often sleeping with more than one woman at a time; you'd expect that someone's contraception would have failed by now. He is handsome, charming, talented, and goes through bouts of being penniless, but women don't seem to care. They are willing to pay for dates, buy him presents, and let him share their apartments without paying rent. Those women are PLAYGIRLS too!
To be fair, we have to devote a month to those NMNKs who ARE PLAYBOYS (and PLAYGIRLS) like Jay! These are people who do not seem to be easy come easy go!
Where to start?
It seems that many people, usually in their youth, make PLAY an experience BEFORE finding a life partner or "settling." Many people believe it is only through playing they will meet such a person!
Is Jay a heartbreaker, "in love with love?, a man who "really loves women?" A bum? What about the women he gets involved with, several who have also been honest about being involved with other men at the same time!
We'd like to hear from the PLAYBOYS and PLAYGIRLS out there!
Sister
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1/15/11
CELIBRATE CELIBACY! UNITED KINGDOM
HERE IS AN ORGANIZATION IN THE UNITED KINGDOM that has a great newsletter-like site that reports on subjects that interest YOU like old women who are life-long virgins!
"Virginity demonstrates the basic preciousness of one's integrity - a spiritual specialness which one wishes to only give to one of the opposite sex with whom they are prepared to share everything for life" - Keith Sanders, UK
"Virginity demonstrates the basic preciousness of one's integrity - a spiritual specialness which one wishes to only give to one of the opposite sex with whom they are prepared to share everything for life" - Keith Sanders, UK
1/12/11
1/8/11
CONNECTING TO AWAKENING FROM THE DREAM BLOG on CELIBACY LIFESTYLE
"As I recently wrote about on the Spiritual Seduction website, at the end of the day, sex just SEX feels like a big nothing to me.
I actually remember thinking that the very first time I had sex. "Really?" I said to myself. "All this hoopla, this huge big deal and all these taboos, and ... that's it? THAT is what the big deal was all about??"
In a way, this is very liberating. So much ridiculousness can be dispensed with when sex is no longer a priority." Erica
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I actually remember thinking that the very first time I had sex. "Really?" I said to myself. "All this hoopla, this huge big deal and all these taboos, and ... that's it? THAT is what the big deal was all about??"
In a way, this is very liberating. So much ridiculousness can be dispensed with when sex is no longer a priority." Erica
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1/5/11
NEW YEARS RESOLUTIONS!
Here are some new years resolutions that might not be common or ordinary!
1) I will not get pregnant or impregnate!
2) I will make sure that my contraception is the best for me and my situation at this time in my life. (Make sure you keep your appointments and have blood work done if you're on the pill. If you have gained or lost more than a few pounds be sure your diaphragm is still fitting. Read about condoms; are you using the brand with the least breakage?)
3) I will get tested for STD's - herpes, HIV/AIDS, etc at least once this year if I am sexually active - between lovers - and every three months if I'm promiscuous,
4) I will carry condoms with me (and not leave them in the hot glove compartment of the car) - male or female - just in case.
5) I will consider being sterilized if I cannot use contraception, am against abortion, and know I do not want children.
1) I will not get pregnant or impregnate!
2) I will make sure that my contraception is the best for me and my situation at this time in my life. (Make sure you keep your appointments and have blood work done if you're on the pill. If you have gained or lost more than a few pounds be sure your diaphragm is still fitting. Read about condoms; are you using the brand with the least breakage?)
3) I will get tested for STD's - herpes, HIV/AIDS, etc at least once this year if I am sexually active - between lovers - and every three months if I'm promiscuous,
4) I will carry condoms with me (and not leave them in the hot glove compartment of the car) - male or female - just in case.
5) I will consider being sterilized if I cannot use contraception, am against abortion, and know I do not want children.
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