LISA SMITH BRAVELY ADMITS SHE HATES SEX AND WANTS A HETERO RELATIONSHIP
" After trying everything in the bedroom to rid her of her disgust for the act she still felt repulsed."
(First published March 22, 2013)
Showing posts with label Asexual. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Asexual. Show all posts
3/22/23
LISA SMITH BRAVELY ADMITS SHE HATES SEX AND WANTS A HETERO RELATIONSHIP
" After trying everything in the bedroom to rid her of her disgust for the act she still felt repulsed."
(First published March 22, 2013)
10/24/15
DEMISEXUAL? GREYSEXUAL? LITHROMANTIC?
HUFFINGTON POST - SEXUALITY TERMS YOU PROBABLY DON'T KNOW by Noah Michelson - full article
EXCERPTS:
According to Asexuality.org, romantic attraction "is an emotional response that most people often feel that results in a desire for a romantic relationship with the person that the attraction is felt towards." The site notes that "many asexual people experience romantic attraction even though they do not feel sexual attraction" and though romantic and sexual orientations often "match," "it is common to find mixed combinations of romantic and sexual orientations" in the asexual community.
EXCERPTS:
According to Asexuality.org, romantic attraction "is an emotional response that most people often feel that results in a desire for a romantic relationship with the person that the attraction is felt towards." The site notes that "many asexual people experience romantic attraction even though they do not feel sexual attraction" and though romantic and sexual orientations often "match," "it is common to find mixed combinations of romantic and sexual orientations" in the asexual community.
10/21/15
ASEXUALITY IS NOT THE NEW NORMAL BUT IT IS BEING RECOGNIZED AS A SEXUALITY CATEGORY
One of the things that horrified me in my teens was the new knowledge that, if you got married, then you were signing on for being sexually active with the same person for the rest of your life and you HAD to satisfy them. At the time I wasn't sexual with anyone and most girls seemed to be intent on fending off boys who were supposed to be the "horny" ones. It seemed to be our jobs - and our reputations - to stop them. I hated the pressure and the feeling of being pursued madly. It felt to me like all boys were stalkerish.
Married for life: This is how just about everyone who surrounded me seemed to be doing it, being married and faithful and loyal. Divorce was rare among the people in my community. Perhaps I was too young to understand that married people had all sort of understandings and contracts between them, things that sustained them, and that all marriages were really not alike, even if these people had the traditional roles of man as breadwinner and woman as wife and mother.
I had no idea really about my parents' sexuality. Or anyone's. It was a private matter, not discussed, which I agree with actually. Parents should not be talking their intimate lives with their children. It was a shocker years later to find out that one of my friend's parents had divorced after three children because he was actually homosexual and his rejection of his wife had lead her to drink and sleep around.
Still, when you're just trying to figure things out for yourself, it can be daunting to imagine that you might have to have sex for the rest of your life with the same person, granted a person who you supposedly love and who supposedly loves you, and who you made a (sacred) commitment to for life. If you have some sexual experiences with boys who have not a clue what they are doing and remain unsatisfied yourself, sex feels like a chore, an obligation, a duty, and a danger.
Well, I've got lots of love to give, always have. But I never met that "special someone" who I could imagine being committed to, in love with, and sexual with, for the rest of my life. Nor did he find me.
Am I asexual?
I've been reading around this subject and actually I don't think so. The reason I don't think so is that from what I'm reading it sounds like asexual could be a natural state one experiences their entire life. Such a person just never is very interested in sex.
Maybe we all go through questioning, doubts, and experiences, and eventually we come to come to a decision about our ORIENTATION, and our GENDER. What about when people get older and find themselves with much less libido? They are still likely to self identify themselves based on all the experiences they had as younger people.
Still, I know some asexual (by self identification) people have read NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS BLOGSPOT and left comments in the past, explaining to me that this is WHY they are NMNK.
Early on in this blog I tried to identify the various groups of people who are NMNK including priests and nuns. I said being NMNK could be a temporary lifestyle or something you have no choice in, though I myself am NMNK by choice.
So in the next few posts I'm going to look into the latest on ASEXUALITY.
C 2015 Never Married No Kids - An Intentional Community All Rights Reserved
Married for life: This is how just about everyone who surrounded me seemed to be doing it, being married and faithful and loyal. Divorce was rare among the people in my community. Perhaps I was too young to understand that married people had all sort of understandings and contracts between them, things that sustained them, and that all marriages were really not alike, even if these people had the traditional roles of man as breadwinner and woman as wife and mother.
I had no idea really about my parents' sexuality. Or anyone's. It was a private matter, not discussed, which I agree with actually. Parents should not be talking their intimate lives with their children. It was a shocker years later to find out that one of my friend's parents had divorced after three children because he was actually homosexual and his rejection of his wife had lead her to drink and sleep around.
Still, when you're just trying to figure things out for yourself, it can be daunting to imagine that you might have to have sex for the rest of your life with the same person, granted a person who you supposedly love and who supposedly loves you, and who you made a (sacred) commitment to for life. If you have some sexual experiences with boys who have not a clue what they are doing and remain unsatisfied yourself, sex feels like a chore, an obligation, a duty, and a danger.
Well, I've got lots of love to give, always have. But I never met that "special someone" who I could imagine being committed to, in love with, and sexual with, for the rest of my life. Nor did he find me.
Am I asexual?
I've been reading around this subject and actually I don't think so. The reason I don't think so is that from what I'm reading it sounds like asexual could be a natural state one experiences their entire life. Such a person just never is very interested in sex.
Maybe we all go through questioning, doubts, and experiences, and eventually we come to come to a decision about our ORIENTATION, and our GENDER. What about when people get older and find themselves with much less libido? They are still likely to self identify themselves based on all the experiences they had as younger people.
Still, I know some asexual (by self identification) people have read NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS BLOGSPOT and left comments in the past, explaining to me that this is WHY they are NMNK.
Early on in this blog I tried to identify the various groups of people who are NMNK including priests and nuns. I said being NMNK could be a temporary lifestyle or something you have no choice in, though I myself am NMNK by choice.
So in the next few posts I'm going to look into the latest on ASEXUALITY.
C 2015 Never Married No Kids - An Intentional Community All Rights Reserved
4/2/11
ASEXUAL (AS IN NOT MOTIVATED BY SEX) MONTH
Checking out to see how NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS is slowly rising in the ranks on Google, I noticed the ASEXUAL page coming up... as a Sexual orientation except that you may have little to no desire for sex, which means that you always relate to men or women as friends. Therefore you are not exactly abstaining from sex like a celibate might. Various studies mine ASEXUALITY as being abnormal and say that maybe one person in a hundred is this way.
I would love to hear from anyone who defines themselves this way!
I would love to hear from anyone who defines themselves this way!
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