POPULATION SERVICES INTERNATIONAL

 POPULATION SERVICES INTERNATIONAL

Linking here to Population Services International, the organization that Ashley Judd works for and writes about so vividly in her new book, just out, called ALL THAT IS BITTER AND SWEET. Some people feel that we should be concentrating on the problems of our own country when we are in such deep doo-doo economically, and perhaps on our way to being a 3rd world country, others that spending billions to help other people in other countries out of desperate poverty; this book is also about children and women held as sex slaves (she uses the term enslaved prostitutes throughout) DO YOU DO VOLUNTEER?

POPULATION SERVICES INTERNATIONAL

ABORTION IS NASTY BUSINESS - SO IS CHILD BIRTH! BIOLOGY SHOULD NOT BE DESTINY : SISTER SPEAKS

It's funny, but when I was a teen, a teacher who was educating her students about debate had us pick a topic and take a side. It didn't have to be the side we were on, but a side.  My best friend in the class took pro-abortion and I went against. She was a genius and more sophisticated about women's liberation - feminism - at that point in our lives.She had the voice of authority while I simply said Abortion is wrong because it is wrong and it is gross.

Now, we are in the complete opposite corners.

She used to say she hated babies, but then maybe that was because after school she had to take care of her little sister who had come as a surprise in her parent's dying marriage.  She also made more money per hour taking care of children for a single mother who had to work than I did working as a cashier and seemed to be upset that the father of these children provided no support even though he had been married to the woman. As an adult, my old friend has been married and the mother of four for some time and rarely has a moment for our friendship. She's become a religious person and no doubt thinks women like me are sinners. You could say that she is no longer a feminist.

I remember as a teen going against abortion because it was and is nasty. At the time there was no abortion pill and young women in my high school seemed to be getting pregnant with ease also because they had no contraception and the young men were also as foolish.  Some had their babies and quit school, with some promise that they could go on living with parents who helped them. Some parents demanded the baby be born and be put up for adoption elsewhere or sent their daughter out of state to do the same. Some parents took their daughter to another state where she could get an abortion that was beyond the three month point.  One pitiful girl took herself to New York for the same reason, the waiting time about her having to earn the money to pay for it and to travel.  I can only think of how lonely and frightened she must have been.

My classmates were without parents who told them about sex or contraception and some of them seemed to use abortion instead of contraception. All of this scared the hell out of me and I was determined to avoid sex.

I saw pictures of aborted fetus including cut up ones in a pan.  Still grosses me out.  I could never ever work in nursing or any profession that requires gross. I could barely dissect a worm in biology class. I would not be able to eat meat if I had to hunt or slaughter. I admit it. 

What I was NOT well educated on was how dangerous, painful, life-threatening, and otherwise icky childbirth is. During the teenage debate my friend said "All surgeries are gross." She was right.

Nothing unites us with the animal mammal kingdom than the realities of childbirth. It's an experience I never wanted to have, an experience I feared, even if just about every woman I knew growing up had gone through it.  I wasn't sure I'd become an NM but I was sure I wasn't interested in having children.  This has been interpreted as my hating children but I do not hate children.  It's just that I'm not gooey about children.  I don't think they are all cute. I also think they deserve and need a whole lot more than most get.  (Although encounters with the spoiled brats leaves me thinking that some are demanding and unappreciative and too precious.)

I read on a blog recently a young mother complaining about how painful and damaged her nipples were from  breast-feeding and the frustration of having a baby who was not gaining weight despite all her trials of attempting to feed it.  Further she'd had a traumatic birth and was becoming an advocate for other women. She said the birth was so traumatic (she meant horrible) that it changed her consciousness. 

Nature designed women to bear this trauma and all else until we die.  A very small percentage of women made it to ever go through a menopause. I had sympathy for young woman but I also hoped she would realize she is no 'natural mother' and make sure she had ended the possibility that she would put herself through this again.

The great number of women leaving their children orphaned; that was an initial reason why some contraception advocates were active a century ago.  Even spacing children so that a woman could potentially recover from a birth and feed her latest infant became controversial.  All of it - including death - were supposed to be 'natural' meaning fateful.  Biology was to be our destiny. I knew I didn't want it to be mine.

Though much of European history, women who were without a husband trying to have a child on their own or because they were widowed were almost forced to marry someone else quickly or become prostitutes or sometimes went to a "work house." In other cultures a man could have more than one wife, so long as he could afford them all.

Contraception, including sterilization and legal abortion changed that. If a person is willing to use these.  If a person is able to get health services.  If a person is able to get a legal abortion, which is the safer alternative to other methods.  If only...

What Anti-Abortion advocates do not care about is the MOTHER. Quite possibly the MOTHER OF OTHER CHILDREN ALREADY. Quite possibly someone who cannot have a relationship without being sexually active but who cannot herself or with a partner afford to raise a child. What about women who are abused but stay in relationships because they can't afford to raise their children alone?

Why is our government making CHILDBEARING regardless of a woman's self determination MANDITORY?  Aren't there already enough people on earth?

This is why I became PRO-CHOICE and still am.

C 2022 Never Married No Kids - BlogSpot

 

WOMEN WHO DON'T WANT TO BE MOTHERS - DOCUMENTARY

THE VIDEO HAS BEEN REMOVED on YouTube
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From DW DOCUMENTARY 

EXCERPT: Women and mother - the two words are often used interchangeably.  Amid a widespread belief that women who aren't mothers are missing something, there's a stigma attached to being childless.  This documentary lets women in Germany, France, and Spain sound off about why they rejected motherhood and questions the existence of the widely accepted "Maternal instinct."

I believe the stats are that one woman in five is childless these days.

And if you raise your children right, to leave home and have their own lives, you will be "childless" most of your life.  (I understand that a family may have to get back together to help each other in times of distress.  Sadly, too many parents, and I think especially single mothers, do not raise their children to leave them.)

YOU OVER POPULATE MY HEART

THOMAS ROBERT MATHUS is the man in the picture. He was an economist.

SMALLER AND SMALLER LIVING SPACES AIMED AT SINGLES - HOW SMALL IS TOO SMALL? IS THIS REALLY A WAY TO LIVE SIMPLE.

I really wish economics was not the outstanding factor in so many decisions that we must make, but there is a reality to deal with.  The cost of living is ever increasing as is the population, even when a country has near zero population growth by choice, which is the case in France and several other countries. 

And people have to live somewhere, not homeless, but in housing.

I've been reading about all the inventive small, even tiny, "houses" or single people dwellings and apartments that are being built.  Some of these are about the size of a garage or a shed.  The builders say "Well, it's still home ownership."   They reason or promote these spaces as for people who are rarely home anyway, meaning they won't get claustrophobia because they'll be at work, at the gym, someone else's house, OUT.  They also are promoted as more ecologically correct or part of the SIMPLE LIVING TREND.

The fact is, I think it takes a special person to live in one of these small, even tiny, "houses" or single people dwellings or apartments that are being built. Some of the owners are giving them up because they realized that what they really wanted was to live in more of a cave in the wilderness.  They are also on small, even tiny lots, and neighbor noise was an issue.  Another issue was having to use the lot as part of the living space, but you're on display and too close to the neighbors who want to stroll on over and talk to you.

I'm one of those people who likes to go into my cave, so that I can think and concentrate, who hates constant noise or interruption (though a big city sometimes has a background "hum" that doesn't bother me).  After a day, weekend, or at most a few days of hiding out, I get "cabin-fever" and I have to go out and get out.  I don't really want to be isolated, just left alone at times.

Recently I attended a book author's presentation at my local library about living SIMPLE.  She kept it simple!  She read her chapter titles and gave one example from each.  I noticed that many of the things that she categorizes as LIVING SIMPLE were really more about ECOLOGY, RECYCLING, and respecting this earth.  I can respect those things and I can see how they can be associated with simple living, because LIVING SIMPLE is about reducing clutter and not having or buying too much stuff, but I also thought that when she said LIVING SIMPLE WOULD SAVE YOU TIME AND MONEY, she had not thought her ideas through.  (More on that in a later post.)

She did impress me as someone who might enjoy living in one of these small, even tiny "houses,"  but it turns out that she actually lives in houses in three different states for her work, which requires she sometimes be near New York City, Los Angeles, or the North West.  None of these houses are houses she bought.  Therefor, her lifestyle relies on being able to stay with others who have bought houses.

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MY SHITTY GODMOTHER'S ONLY CLAIM TO FAME IS MOTHERHOOD

Recently someone reminded me of my GODMOTHER, who was once overheard talking against me.  She said "She's the kind of person who doesn't even like holding babies!"

I'm not sure how this got started as I haven't even lived near my Godmother for the majority of my life for her to see me or not see me holding babies but as a child, no I was not eager to hold other people's babies.  They seemed heavy, they seemed wiggly, and I was probably feeling as though  I might accidently drop the baby and be in big trouble.  After all I was still a child.   (Why do people thrust their babies at others to hold anyway?  Probably they feel they need a BREAK!)

She never said anything like this to MY FACE and I suppose I should call her on it, though what difference would it make?   She's now quite old.  She got fired as my GODMOTHER long ago; for years I was conned by her into believing that everything she said was the truth and learned that she has done a lot of PR in her time, and probably what was really behind her comment is her need to promote herself as SUPERMOM.  In case you are wondering, she never fulfilled the role of a GODMOTHER in my life.  She never was concerned for my spirituality and she didn't become a substitute mom for me when mine died.

For sadly, my GODMOTHER never had a chance to be anything else in this life but a wife and mother.  She never had any education past high school.  She never fully supported herself or worked a full time job.  She got pregnant before she got married but the marriage worked.  Being the mother of TWO is her claim to fame because they did turn out well, as have her grandchildren. I have no idea if she wanted more children.  I've always assumed that she only had two because that was the NUMBER GOD GAVE HER (along with some sort of preventive medical condition) or because at least she and her husband were smart enough to know that was all they could afford.  The doing well part is because they could afford college for their sons who could afford college for their children.

But then, as her children grew up, my GODMOTHER was the go to person for many of my relatives when they needed free babysitting services.  This was something my own mother actually didn't want.  I was not left at my GODMOTHER'S house to roam in a troop of village children.  Though we showed up to visit and attended many family events my same GODMOTHER calls this "We never really got to know you."

I suspect my GODMOTHER thinks there are all sorts of things I personally and my parents ought to be GUILTY about!

As a teenager I baby sat my fair share of children and some were still in diapers.  Most were not.  Most were OK kids, a couple were horrid, and the parents never paid anything close to a minimum wage.  That tells you just how valued mothering and child care was.  The three kids I babysat the most were really good kids, well behaved, respectful, sometimes fun. 

None of the children I babysat made me think "Wow! Someday I'll have my own!"  I suspect that my GODMOTHER thinks I am ABNORMAL because I'm NMNK...  And sadly people like me make for being an easy target for people like her.

C 2014 Never Married No Kids - BlogSpot

2011 INTERNATIONAL FAMILY PLANNING CONFERENCE in DAKAR SENEGAL

Dakar Senegal is the location of this conference which is entitled FAMILY PLANNING.

I'm not comfortable with that term because it is QUAINT. Family Planning assumes first of all that you are a person who is going to have a family. Family Planning assumes that you are thus a person who does not have sex unless contraception is a family planning issue (that you are married or going to wait until married), rather than an issue of having sex without bringing children into the world.
I think they are trying to be non controversial using this quaint FAMILY PLANNING term when this is a very controversial subject!

In many parts of the world - and still here in the United States in most families - those who do not want any children and do something about it - especially if you have yourself sterilized when you are young - are considered to be abnormal human beings. Even abortion here is understood as "not the right time" to have a child rather than "Never Wanted A Child In The First Place, and Probably Never Will."

HOW DO ASEXUAL PEOPLE COPE WITH FERTILITY SEASON? (SPRING - EASTER)

Asexual people must just love SPRING FERTILITY SEASON. 

Today is Easter and what are the symbols? 
Bunnies (no jokes about being reincarnated in Minnesota!)
Newly hatched chicks (dyed with food coloring?)
Eggs - colored red in many ethnicities ;Pagan Prosperity!

Do you know that some people think ASEXUAL people are ROBOTIC?! 
Would love your comments! 
Sister

300 MILLION AMERICANS and WORKAHOLICS ARE ALONE

 American  culture makes it easy to be isolated.  The average American has only 2 friends who they can confide... and more people than ever say they have no Confidant.

MOTHER JONES MAGAZINE and WHY IS POPULATION CONTROL A RADIOACTIVE TOPIC

Paul R. Ehrlich wrote the controversial 1968 book The Population Bomb and co-founded the group Zero Population Growth: "Overpopulation, combined with overconsumption, is the elephant in the room. We don't talk about overpopulation because of real fears from the past—of racism, eugenics, colonialism, forced sterilization, forced family planning, plus the fears from some of contraception, abortion, and sex. We don't really talk about overconsumption because of ignorance about the economics of overpopulation and the true ecological limits of Earth."

LINK HERE TO A MAGAZINE ARTICLE WITH LOTS OF EXPERT OPINIONS...

IS POPULATION GROWTH MONTH - POPULATION INSTITUTE LINK

POPULATION INSTITUTE link here!  This has a lot of good information and it's scary but up on the right hand top of their page you can see the population of the world increasing, a woman giving birth every... well it appears to be every second...

Welcome to the Population Institute



The Population Institute is an international non-profit that educates policymakers and the public about population, and seeks to promote universal access to family planning information, education, and services. Through voluntary family planning, we strive to achieve a world population in balance with a healthy global environment and resource base.

FIFTY YEARS OF THE CONTRACEPTION THE PILL

NOT "BIRTH CONTROL"  (How did it ever get that stupid name?)  but CONTRACEPTION... has never been more perfect than "the pill."  But it's still not perfect for everyone.  I've known women who got pregnant despite practicing every kind of contraception there is..

Link to this news story about the pill's 50th anniversary - this year!

ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE A MAN is actually ACT LIKE A WHORE, THINK LIKE STEVE HARVEY

Review by Sister C 2009 All Rights including Internet Rights and International Rights Reserved

The #1 New York Times Bestseller ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE A MAN, is comedian Steve Harvey's opus on the so called war between the sexes. BAD NEWS ! Really the title should be ACT LIKE A WHORE, THINK LIKE STEVE HARVEY !...

What is this shi* doing on the New York Times Best Seller list? Is the American public, women in particular, this INSECURE that we need another "expert" to tell us how to get and keep men?

No, he's not being funny, he's serious when he says that a man needs COOKIE (read NOOKIE) and if he has to wait a whole month or more to get it from you HE IS GOING TO CHEAT. Who wants or needs men in our personal lives like that? NOT ME!

MEN ARE NOT ALL LIKE THIS. The biology as destiny argument is worthless!

MEN WORTH HAVING IN YOUR LIFE ARE NOT LIKE THIS.

Mature men, who are not ego buffed by celebrity and groupies hanging off their *ocks, know that TRUE INTIMACY and REAL COMMITMENT are not dependent on sexual functioning. Yes, people go through pregnancies, illnesses, loose their libidos or their ability to get it up. Men worth having aren't demanding sex from their women who are undergoing radiation and chemotherapy for breast cancer, for instance.

STEVE HARVEY seems stuck in adolescence to me!

IF WOMEN TURNED THE TABLES ON SUCH MEN and SAID "If you don't give me orgasms I'm out of here," there would be very few families and there probably wouldn't even be a population problem!

MEN LIKE STEVE HARVEY NEED TO BE INTRODUCED TO THEIR HANDS rather than WASTE THE TIME (and the LOVE) of women! They are NOT gentleman, and gentleman, by the way, ARE the ones who PROVIDE and PROTECT.

POPULATION CONNECTION

Do we want population control to be about individual choice when it comes to reproduction or a government mandated control of individuals such as is practiced in China, where one child per family has been going on for some time and has resulted in a sexist overload of male children and preferential abortions of female fetus?

POPULATION CONNECTION gives you some issues to ponder... click on the title above to get to their site.

WHO QUALIFIES TO BE A PARENT ?

How many children are brought into this world through the love of their parents, parents who are ready, willing, and able to give a child everything it needs to prosper as a human being?

Sad to say, the majority of children brought into this world are NOT PLANNED, and NOT WANTED! AND THE MAJORITY OF PARENTS DO NOT HAVE IT TO BE PARENTS!

Think I'm wrong?

Think of all the children who live their lives in various forms of poverty! In Los Angeles many only have their state funded free lunch for their food and go to be hungry.
Think of all the children who are abused...
In extreme cases taken from their parents and go on to live in a series of abusive foster homes.

If the only children born into this world were wanted and raised in love, there would be no OVERPOPULATION PROBLEM!