INTENTIONAL COMMUNITY

 

ARE PEOPLE WHO BECOME PARENTS IN THEIR 60'S SELFISH? I Think So!

The fact that if you can afford it you can have a child by a surrogate has meant that many people - of any gender or sexuality can afford a child.  It has meant that women who are no longer fertile can parent. But the question is still the same: just because you can does not mean you should.

Though we cannot guarantee anything in life, we do need to think about what would happen to a child if both parents were unable to parent.

I see the crisis in affordability of everything.

I see how population is shifting due to unaffordability.

I see how contraception has allowed women to choose to have a child or not though contraception is not perfect.  Abortion also, though this is still a difficult choice for many and increasingly there are those who want to basically FORCE PARENTING.

Adoption is an option but POOR WOMEN SHOULD NOT UNPAID BABY MAKERS FOR RICH PEOPLE.

BEING NMNK does not mean you don't care about children.  

This Daily Mail UK- MAIL ON LINE article discusses the 60 somethings who have children and will likely die before they are adults.  I DO THINK IT IS SELFISH.  I seriously question people in their 50's having children for the same reason.  Wealth and a younger spouse as well as a functional family willing to step in can figure in the decision.

Daily Mail - Woman Sparks Debate Mothers in 60's Selfish by Claire Toureille

LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH - HAPPY VALENTINES TO ALL OF YOU WHO NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS!

LOVE THE ONE YOU'RE WITH ALL THE TIME - YOU!
I know that some of you really are selfish, self centered, self concerned, all the time, but I'm betting most of you are NMNK for other reasons.  PROVE YOU LOVE YOU!


Get enough sleep!  No easy thing in todays world but necessary for your immunity and overall heath.  To do it you have to try and keep a regular schedule which may mean limiting how much time you spend on the phone, or getting into a routine when it comes to household have to's.  Sit down with yourself and think over your priorities.  There is only so much time in the day and you can't get straight A's when you're taking too many units.


Have A Few Close Friends! While I think we should take emergency calls from family or our few truly close friends, generally I prefer to meet with a person for coffee or have dinner together  to have revealing conversations and use the phone for making plans. Once in a while reassess.  Have you been a taker or a giver?  With who?  Why?


Date - Honestly. Freudian Psychology be damned.  If someone isn't compatible and companionable with you, make them a friend, or give them up so they can move on to someone better for them and free you up.   If you have to end a relationship that's going nowhere, or only held together with sentimentality, be kind about how you do that.


Put Your Parents In Their Place!  If your parent(s) are pressuring you to "settle down and get married," or give them a grandchild or do anything that and you don't want to, it's time to take mom or dad out to lunch, and tell them you no longer wish to discuss your personal romances with them, no longer want to be nagged, and that they will be the first person to know if you change you mind!  Come out with it.  Refuse to be guilt tripped into anything.  Set your boundaries.


Treat Yourself! Gift yourself some pleasure like a vacation trip, spa day, or upgrade of your computer or cell phone, something that is a reward for work, and will help you relax and be a bit more organized.

MOTHER JONES MAGAZINE and WHY IS POPULATION CONTROL A RADIOACTIVE TOPIC

Paul R. Ehrlich wrote the controversial 1968 book The Population Bomb and co-founded the group Zero Population Growth: "Overpopulation, combined with overconsumption, is the elephant in the room. We don't talk about overpopulation because of real fears from the past—of racism, eugenics, colonialism, forced sterilization, forced family planning, plus the fears from some of contraception, abortion, and sex. We don't really talk about overconsumption because of ignorance about the economics of overpopulation and the true ecological limits of Earth."

LINK HERE TO A MAGAZINE ARTICLE WITH LOTS OF EXPERT OPINIONS...

ALL ABOUT ABORTION - THIS SITE DOES NOT MAKE YOU GUILT TRIP

Here's a link to a site that is clearly pro-abortion with lots of links that include testimonials.  Growing up in a time when most parents did not discuss contraception with their children I witnessed many of my classmates have babies and mostly give them up because they had no easy contraception options.  Then in my twenties I began to meet women who had abortions and I'll be honest, most of them WERE EMOTIONALLY UPSET about it at some point.  Still, unless you are really willing to go through a pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption, you must ask yourself if you are in a place in life where you can raise a child; do you have the wealth and the health? 

AND NO, LEAVING THE CHILD TO BE RAISED BY GRANDPARENTS ... THAT IS NOT FAIR TO THEM!

Sister

ABORTION RIGHTS : PLANNED PARENTHOOD

Want to know the latest about your right to abortion?  How about checking out this site by PLANNED PARENTHOOD ?

POPE DEFENDS CELIBACY TODAY - ASSOCIATED PRESS REPORTS

By NICOLE WINFIELD, Associated Press Writer


"VATICAN CITY – Pope Benedict XVI strongly defended celibacy for priests as a sign of faith in an increasingly secular world Thursday, insisting on a church tradition that has increasingy come under scrutiny amid the clerical sex abuse scandal.


Benedict didn't directly mention the crisis that has rocked the Catholic Church for months in his comments to some 15,000 priests who massed in St. Peter's Square. But in an apparent reference to the crisis, Benedict spoke about "secondary scandals" that showed "our own insufficiencies and sins."


Benedict's comments came during an evening vigil service to mark the end of the Vatican's year of the priest — a year that has been marred by revelations of hundreds of new cases of clerical abuse, cover-up and Vatican inaction to root out pedophile priests."
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SISTER HERE!  OF COURSE PRIESTS should be celibate IF THAT'S THE VOW THEY TOOK!

And to me they would not be priests if they were not celibate.  Look at the trouble the CHURCH OF ENGLAND is in now that PRINCE CHARLES, it's head to be, cannot be due to all that mess with Princess Diana and his current wife, his former mistress, Camilla Parker-Bowles

RELIGIOUS ORDERS MONTH - ARE YOU RE RELIGIOUS?

Many people remain "Never Married No Kids" because they become religious or spiritual and decide to devote their life to prayer or good works formally, by joining a Holy Order. They become priests, nuns, monks...

Let me say this about the vow of poverty. Many of the people who are in these orders have food, shelter, clothing, and medical insurance/care. There are plenty of people who have less. They are usually around other people for much of their day (the two sisters walking down the street together) and are not always alone or without a sense of family or community. Many of them have college educations thanks to their order.

That is MORE than a lot of poor people have! - Sister

HERMITS UNITED

One of the stereotypes of the NMNK is that we are "hermits," people who may be antisocial or lack social skills or not really want to be part of humanity, but maybe it's just that some of us like quietude and solitude. Check out the link here HERMITS UNITED! (Lots of interesting links too!) HEY, LONERS UNITING WITH LONERS - it's a good thing!

ELLEN PECK an archived INTERVIEW from PEOPLE MAGAZINE 1976

ELLEN PECK is a WOMAN WE ADMIRE here at NMNK - An INTENTIONAL COMMUNITY . This is an archived article circa 1976. It goes to show you that many of our issues are still issues.


"The government is not neutral. In addition to the $750 per child exemption allowed by the Internal Revenue Service, the federal government implicitly subsidizes childbearing through welfare, social security and housing policies. The standard argument goes, "It's for the sake of the children." Doesn't it make sense to make not having children just as acceptable?"