RUDE !

 RUDE !

Can you believe that some guy came up to me at a party and said "Are you queer? That you never married or had children? What's wrong with you?" HE WAS TOO IGNORANT TO EVEN RESPOND TO! But it stung because everyone looked my way...

(First published  October 7, 2009)

 

ALL ABOUT ABORTION - THIS SITE DOES NOT MAKE YOU GUILT TRIP

Here's a link to a site that is clearly pro-abortion with lots of links that include testimonials.  Growing up in a time when most parents did not discuss contraception with their children I witnessed many of my classmates have babies and mostly give them up because they had no easy contraception options.  Then in my twenties I began to meet women who had abortions and I'll be honest, most of them WERE EMOTIONALLY UPSET about it at some point.  Still, unless you are really willing to go through a pregnancy and give the baby up for adoption, you must ask yourself if you are in a place in life where you can raise a child; do you have the wealth and the health? 

AND NO, LEAVING THE CHILD TO BE RAISED BY GRANDPARENTS ... THAT IS NOT FAIR TO THEM!

Sister

Sister Rants : STOP BEING A LONELYHEART and APOLOGIZING TO THE WORLD !

Today I was, as I often do, browsing through the other sites that come up when I put NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS into a search engine. I'm so tired of the LONELY HEART postings in which people actually APOLOGIZE TO THE WORLD, that they are NMNK...

We do not OWE anyone to have children, especially if we don't want children. And, sometimes being unmarried and childless really is not the lifestyle choice a person wants, but for whatever reason it is their fate, at least for now. But still, stop feeling sorry for yourself on that basis already!

People who have no children to support and raise have far more time to do the things they want to. People with children are always complaining of having no time - not even for their "friends."

MAKE A FAMILY OF CHOICE !

Sister

POPE DEFENDS CELIBACY TODAY - ASSOCIATED PRESS REPORTS

By NICOLE WINFIELD, Associated Press Writer


"VATICAN CITY – Pope Benedict XVI strongly defended celibacy for priests as a sign of faith in an increasingly secular world Thursday, insisting on a church tradition that has increasingy come under scrutiny amid the clerical sex abuse scandal.


Benedict didn't directly mention the crisis that has rocked the Catholic Church for months in his comments to some 15,000 priests who massed in St. Peter's Square. But in an apparent reference to the crisis, Benedict spoke about "secondary scandals" that showed "our own insufficiencies and sins."


Benedict's comments came during an evening vigil service to mark the end of the Vatican's year of the priest — a year that has been marred by revelations of hundreds of new cases of clerical abuse, cover-up and Vatican inaction to root out pedophile priests."
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SISTER HERE!  OF COURSE PRIESTS should be celibate IF THAT'S THE VOW THEY TOOK!

And to me they would not be priests if they were not celibate.  Look at the trouble the CHURCH OF ENGLAND is in now that PRINCE CHARLES, it's head to be, cannot be due to all that mess with Princess Diana and his current wife, his former mistress, Camilla Parker-Bowles

HIATUS!

I'm working two jobs and am going on hiatus with this blog. I will be checking in about once a month just to see if any of you have left comments or e-mailed me. I hope that you will look through my archives and find something that inspires you to remain proud of your NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS status!

It seems like those words mostly bring up dating clubs and lonely hearts mourning their fate or feeling angry (as I do sometimes) by being so discriminated against! I hope that the two years that I've been blogging this issue has moved us to awareness, if not resolution of those problems.

Remember you can use comments or e-mail to get in touch with me.

Sending my Best Wishes to My NMNK Brothers and Sisters!

HAPPY 2010!

Sister

MONASTIC TENDENCIES !

If you're like me you acknowledge that you have monastic tendencies. You love long hours of aloneness which isn't the same as being lonely. It means being independent and organizing your activities for the day, even if that's reading and sleeping. Uninterrupted Luxury! That is my wish for you during these holidays, that if you want to be alone you can indulge! Sister

THANKSGIVING DINNER ! THOSE NASTY RELATIVES !

Don't know about you but I've had some real nasty "Family" Thanksgiving Dinners!

BECAUSE I BROUGHT A FRIEND WHO HAD NOWHERE ELSE TO GO ALONG, it was assumed that this man was an important relationship... LIKE, "MAYBE SHE'S GOING TO GET MARRIED!" The poor guy endured a lot of personal questions, like he was being interviewed to see if he was husband material. A relative had the nerve to tell him I had "Commitment Phobia" which isn't true at all. So here are some things to be thankful for! THAT THOSE KIDS RUNNING AROUND THE HOUSE get to go home with someone else at the days end!

MORMON CHURCH TARGETED AT KISSING BASH by GAY MEN

Click on the link above to get to the Yahoo news article about the Gay Activists who are having a kissing bash to get back at the Mormon - Latter Day Saints Church - for their activism to keep gays from marriage.

Now I know you want my opinion. The other day some guy was joking with me and said "YOU ARE GOING TO MARRY ME, AREN'T YOU?"

I said, "NO WAY, you know the only ones who want to get married these days are gay men!"

YES, I AM FOR GAY MARRIAGE, and YES, I DO THINK IT WILL LEAD TO OTHER FORMS OF MARRIAGE LIKE OLD FASHIONED POLYGAMY BEING LEGAL AGAIN!

The fact is MARITAL STATUS SHOULD NOT BE NECESSARY TO HAVE DISCOUNTS IN LIFE ! SINGLE PEOPLE ARE ALWAYS PAYING MORE TO TRAVEL, FOR FOOD, and two people who are married and who cohabitate legally get HEALTH INSURANCE for far less than two single people who cohabitant as roommates, MARRIAGE HAS FINANCIAL and LEGAL BENEFITS and that is what it's often about - not love!

Sister

HEY THERE LONELY GIRL (This one's for Peter) EDDIE HOLMAN

SORRY NEVER BEEN KISSED but I couldn't resist!  Sister

P.S. Can you imagine the teasing Eddie Holman took growing up with this voice? And what a wonderful voice it is!

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Sister

REMEMBER MICHEAL JACKSON and THE JESUS JUICE

Remember Micheal Jackson and the "Jesus Juice," the wine he was having kids drink to warm them up for being silly about wearing their underpants and sleeping with him - a grown man - a stranger - in his bed? My blood is boiling at the way this creep is going down in history as a great entertainer and humanitarian.

Just because this blog is NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS, just because I don't have kids and never wanted any doesn't mean that I hate kids. I think kids deserve a whole lot more than they are getting. And that includes protection from opportunistic parents who would actually allow their child to spend time with a rich never married singer-celebrity simply because he is a rich never married singer-celebrity. Irresponsibly allowing their children to be exposed to this - especially after the first trial and strong rumors of payoffs prior to that - just for the goodies, is greedy and sick.

One friend said "Well, he's meeting his maker now." I wish I could be so religious. I'm not. And I don't think the spectacle of eternal damnation excuses us as a society for putting the emphasis on popularity instead of values!

Sister

ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE A MAN is actually ACT LIKE A WHORE, THINK LIKE STEVE HARVEY

Review by Sister C 2009 All Rights including Internet Rights and International Rights Reserved

The #1 New York Times Bestseller ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE A MAN, is comedian Steve Harvey's opus on the so called war between the sexes. BAD NEWS ! Really the title should be ACT LIKE A WHORE, THINK LIKE STEVE HARVEY !...

What is this shi* doing on the New York Times Best Seller list? Is the American public, women in particular, this INSECURE that we need another "expert" to tell us how to get and keep men?

No, he's not being funny, he's serious when he says that a man needs COOKIE (read NOOKIE) and if he has to wait a whole month or more to get it from you HE IS GOING TO CHEAT. Who wants or needs men in our personal lives like that? NOT ME!

MEN ARE NOT ALL LIKE THIS. The biology as destiny argument is worthless!

MEN WORTH HAVING IN YOUR LIFE ARE NOT LIKE THIS.

Mature men, who are not ego buffed by celebrity and groupies hanging off their *ocks, know that TRUE INTIMACY and REAL COMMITMENT are not dependent on sexual functioning. Yes, people go through pregnancies, illnesses, loose their libidos or their ability to get it up. Men worth having aren't demanding sex from their women who are undergoing radiation and chemotherapy for breast cancer, for instance.

STEVE HARVEY seems stuck in adolescence to me!

IF WOMEN TURNED THE TABLES ON SUCH MEN and SAID "If you don't give me orgasms I'm out of here," there would be very few families and there probably wouldn't even be a population problem!

MEN LIKE STEVE HARVEY NEED TO BE INTRODUCED TO THEIR HANDS rather than WASTE THE TIME (and the LOVE) of women! They are NOT gentleman, and gentleman, by the way, ARE the ones who PROVIDE and PROTECT.

NO DIVORCE NO HEARTBREAK ?

No Divorce No Heartbreak?

By Sister

Do some others assume that because you've never married and divorced (or lived with someone spouse-like and split up) that you are - well, not experienced with heartbreak? This blog understands that being NMNK is often a choice but sometimes it's just the way your life went despite your best efforts. WHATEVER, now that you fit in our CATEGORY, you are subject to the sam BS the rest of us are experiencing. Maybe you tried to join the ranks of the married and never got there. I dare say that some of you may be NMNK because of a heartbreak that occurred at some time in your life and you've never really gotten over him or her.

This blog is NOT about being unloving or unloved, however. I simply propose that for some of us creating "family" has much more to do with choice - having a family of friends. Some of us are truly "loners" but others of us have lives full of people. We don't need as much as some others or we get our need for companionship and socialization from people we are not married to or creating families with.

People often ask me invasive personal questions - even in public with other strangers around - wanting to know the details of my love life, sex life - present or past - and it always pisses me off. In fact, I've distanced myself from more than one person - male persons in particular - who have put me on the spot "just wanting to know."

The truth is, your personal life is personal unless you don't want it to be. You don'tOWE anyone any explanations for why you are the way you are - single and childless - and it used to be that such questions were UNDERSTOOD to be THE HEIGHT OF RUDENESS. I wish I had a standard answer to shut these rude questioners up but I seem to feel the eyes upon me expecting me to make a pronouncement. But when I do, I suspect that they are wondering if I'm just a great actress.

What kind of retorts have YOU made when someone tries to disarm you or make your lifestyle suspect?-

Sister

C 2009 all rights reserved, including Internation and Internet

ARE YOU AN OBJECT OF PITY AND CONTEMPT ?

OK.... I'm NOT going to tell you your personal perceptions are all off... HOWEVER, it is time for you - if you have been made to feel this way - to STOP INTERNALIZING OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS OF YOU!

THERE IS NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF SIMPLY BECAUSE YOU ARE A NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS person !

Here are some things some people might consider being ashamed of:

Not using contraception when they damn well know they are not "ready" for a child or their sex partner(s) are "not ready!"

Having children they do not want and abusing them - taking it out on the kid.

Going after their friends' boyfriend/husband or girlfriend/wife rather than going to getting their own!

Keeping relationships going that are going NOWHERE because they don't want to be single!

Going around with the attitude that ANY marriage would be better than NO marriage (i.e. thinking it's better to tell people later that you are divorced rather than NEVER MARRIED!)

I'm SURE you can come up with other despicable things people do in order to NOT be NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS!

SISTER

YMCA is for KIDS and FAMILIES but what about NMNK's ? WE ARE CALLED ON TO VOLUNTEER so the KIDS CAN GO TO CAMP

Sister here... I'm a bitching! The local YMCA is always hounding me to volunteer or donate more money, but I've learned that what is most subsidized by the YMCA is children's camps and programs. The emphasis is, as usual on CHILDREN and FAMILIES. My local YMCA even has a board dedicated to the BIRTH of BABIES that belong to members and A MEMBERS JUST MARRIED BOARD. I would love to see a board that celebrates those of us who DO NOT BREED and who DO NOT MARRY! Is it possible that I cannot expect this because the Y, is after all the Young Men's CHRISTIAN Association ?!

A HOLIDAY MESSAGE FROM SISTER - TAKE A MOMENT AND LET US KNOW WHO YOU ARE !

A HOLIDAY MESSAGE FROM SISTER

This blog emerged as a great idea over a holiday. Christmas is FAMILY TIME - right? I don't know about you but if you're forever unmarried and childess, even by choice, the holidays with the emphasis on family and children can make you feel too totally alone, even if you really aren't. Probably no other time of the year is more challenging to NMNK's.

I wonder about YOU, the reader of this blog.

Which description would best fit you?

* I never desired children and don't plan to have any and am not sorry I never did?

* I put off having children or adopting or cannot bear children due to infertility or transgendering?

* I'm too young or too old to have children biologicially whether I want children or not?

When it comes to marriage...

* I don't believe in life-long commitments?

* I'd like a partner in life for a life-long commitment but it hasn't happened for me and may never.

* I plan to marry but not have children?

* I'm divorced and plan never to remarry or have children?

* I will not marry because of religions vows for celebacy and singlehood?

There must be many other mind-sets out there when it comes to this issue and reason for this blog, in which I hope to be supportive of others. If you are wondering about me, my answers would be that I am never married and never had any desire to have children. I don't believe I missed out not having children, now that I can no longer. I haven't spent more than 10 minutes of my life wondering if maybe it would be a good idea for me. I've never had a life partner either and I always knew that a traditional marriage of being a stay at home wife and mother would not satisfy me. I leave it open as to love and a commitment till death.

NOKIDDING CLUB out of VANCOUVER CANADA

Here's the link to NOKIDDING, the club out of Vancouver Columbia that is there for you!

CHILDFREE BY CHOICE

"Do women who have fewer or no children live longer? A study of genealogical records kept by British aristocrats for 1,200 years shows that nearly half of all women who survived past 81 were childless. Similar results held for men. One explanation, says Thomas Kirkwood, a biologist at the University of Manchester, is that when the body commits more of its resources for reproduction, fewer might be available to support a long life."
--Discover Magazine,4/99 quoted above...

FRIENDS, rush over to see CHILDFREE BY CHOICE, by clicking on the title above!

Sister

TOO INDEPENDENT? OR TOO MARRIED

My boyfriend of late has dumped me. He needed to spend more time with me but to me it felt like he was always wanting to be with me, go everywhere together, on and on.
Maybe we could have negotiated quality time instead of quantity time. I let it be known that I thought he was used to being married (divorced after a decade of marriage) and I was used to being Independent... not waiting on someone, not scheduled by someone, but willing and able to do and go when I want to. He quickly picked up a romance with a woman who has nothing to do but hang out... Still, break-ups are always sad. Sister