Showing posts with label Feminism. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Feminism. Show all posts
3/4/23
2/24/23
SUSAN B ANTHONY 19th CENTURY FEMINIST WAS NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS
SUSAN B ANTHONY 19th CENTURY FEMINIST WAS NMNK
Here's the scoop on SUSAN B. ANTHONY, early in American History of Feminism, and a ROLE MODEL who probably paid a higher price for her radicalism than any Feminist of the 20th century. And who appears on a United States dollar coin.'
Not so long ago a woman who was uninterested in marriage or motherhood was often considered to be either a Lesbian and/or a Feminist. How far have we come? Feminist wasn't generally thought of as positive label. Women seemed to always be explaining they believed in "equal pay" but were not "one of those women who..." Feminist were considered to be "angry" women as if anger invalidates a person's thoughts and feelings.
Linking here to a bit about SUSAN B. ANTHONY!
WHY NOT BE ANGRY?
Anger can also be a motivational force!
Not so long ago a woman who was uninterested in marriage or motherhood was often considered to be either a Lesbian and/or a Feminist. How far have we come? Feminist wasn't generally thought of as positive label. Women seemed to always be explaining they believed in "equal pay" but were not "one of those women who..." Feminist were considered to be "angry" women as if anger invalidates a person's thoughts and feelings.
Linking here to a bit about SUSAN B. ANTHONY!
WHY NOT BE ANGRY?
Anger can also be a motivational force!
(First published May 21, 2011)
5/5/21
THE HORROR OF THE CARD GAME "OLD MAID"
I was shocked when friends of mine, a happily married couple who are HOMESCHOOLING their grandchildren, both with advanced college degrees ( a Masters and a Doctorate) and as WOKE as one can get, decided it would be appropriate to teach their granddaughters the card game OLD MAID. The object of this classic card game is to not be the one "left out" so it teaches the "normality" of marriage and basically enforces OUT DATED NOTIONS THAT IT IS UNDESIREABLE TO BE UNMARRIED, especially if you are a female. I was so stunned I blurted, "Don't be POLITICALLY INCORRECT. Be sure to teach them OLD BACHELOR!"
Really, there is no reason anyone should be teaching their children, whatever gender, that if you don't marry you're a looser.
By the way, this couple have one of the best marriages I've ever known of.
C 2021 NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS
8/29/20
CRAZY WOMAN WANTS CHILDLESS WOMEN BANNED FROM DISNEYLAND
DAILY MAIL : VIRAL MOTHER'S RANT - WANTS CHILDLESS WOMEN BANNED FROM DISNEYLAND
It started a few years ago but picked up speed recently. A bigoted crazy person wanted childless WOMEN (what, no mention of MEN?) BANNED FROM DISNEYLAND? She was especially targeting "immature millennials."
There are times when you just feel like blowing up at MOTHERS (and FATHERS) who act like they need special attention and praise for their parenting.
My guess is that this particular mother was impatient, demanding, and spoiled herself.
As for immature millennials, when you PLAN on bringing children into the world - when you are ready to in every way - that is selfless - that is mature. I realize that some millennials never want to leave home, but when you're brought up on Disney, DISNEYLAND can be a good time.
Geeeeez!
3/31/20
WOMEN WHO DON'T WANT TO BE MOTHERS - DOCUMENTARY
THE VIDEO HAS BEEN REMOVED on YouTube
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From DW DOCUMENTARY
EXCERPT: Women and mother - the two words are often used interchangeably. Amid a widespread belief that women who aren't mothers are missing something, there's a stigma attached to being childless. This documentary lets women in Germany, France, and Spain sound off about why they rejected motherhood and questions the existence of the widely accepted "Maternal instinct."
I believe the stats are that one woman in five is childless these days.
And if you raise your children right, to leave home and have their own lives, you will be "childless" most of your life. (I understand that a family may have to get back together to help each other in times of distress. Sadly, too many parents, and I think especially single mothers, do not raise their children to leave them.)
3/7/20
WHY DO MORE MEN SUICIDE THAN WOMEN?
PSMAGAZINE : SOCIAL JUSTICE : WHY MEN KILL THEMSELVES
SOCIAL PERFECTIONISM is the reason why.
Check out this article from 2015.
Men, at least take charge of your reproductivity. Be a CO-NONPARENT!
3/28/18
DEEP INSULTS BECAUSE I'M NOT A MOTHER
I happened again. I was told that I had no right to judge, that I didn't know a certain family member's child "like we do," and so on, and that basically I have no right to an opinion because I am not myself a mother. I was also mocked about how well I take care of my dog. Actually, after a few months of tolerance in which I pretended not to hear and chose to blame immaturity, months in which I had sympathized and empathized and been supportive, I was beginning to feel angry myself.
Let me explain this deep insult, from a so called feminist yet. We real feminists know that it does not take giving birth or having a personal child, or being a mother, to know when we are dealing with a spoiled brat.
Let's call the spoiled brat, who I was previously told is a chronic liar and narcissist and drama queen and so on, "Melanie." Melanie is someone I had not seen since she was in diapers, that is true. In fact, her single mother (no father in the child's life ever, but a man who not only hid out rather than pay child support but apparently has fathered EIGHT children at this point, a real inseminator!) was acting so weird towards me back in the day that I decided I WOULD NOT SEE THEM AGAIN UNTIL THIS CHILD WAS A LEGAL ADULT. By weird I mean that this single mother took my interest in her child to be jealousy that she had her and I had none. Needless to say I was not jealous of her. I tried to respect that fact that she had not had an abortion and felt confident that she could do it all alone.
Now the child is an adult of 18, I have met her, I have spent time with them, I was warned she was screwed up, and I sadly got a triple dose of her obnoxious behavior, which I'm not supposed to react to or comment on.
Upon meeting me she did a news flash. "I don't believe in bras or marriage," she said.
I thought "That's interesting." Later I realized she had said this because she thought that would put her in good with me. Actually I have always worn bras, though not always the most concealing ones. Not all women need them all the time. But damn if this young woman went and eloped soon after, came back home and expected her mother to continue to support her financially. She argued that it was OK if she and her husband slept together in their house when they were just dating, why not now? Wasn't mom and other family members supposed to keep them in medical insurance, the latest laptops and cell phones, continue to pay for their college tuition, world travel, vegetarian foods, and so on - so they could stay in school? Neither she or her young husband thought marriage meant you go live together elsewhere - get your own place - land in the same bed every night together - and afford it on your own!
This was just the beginning of her lies to me - someone new in her life as an adult - distantly related - which added on to the lies - whole plots of them - that she told her mother and other relations.
For the next few months the entire family and household was in an uproar as one thing led to another. If perhaps we might think "OK, she is NOT your child, so there should be a boundary there, well, I cared, I tried to stay out of it, I tried to be the rational voice, and I tried to be realistic. Sure her single mother was going to go through empty nest syndrome. Sure her single mother had sometimes worked two jobs to keep her in a private school, send her to special activity summer camps. She also sent her to stay elsewhere when she had a man over. Didn't she deserve one night a week just for herself, to relax, have sex, etc? She also was career oriented and could be exhausted or seem to be in her own space. Was she actually neglectful? Not really.
When had the chronic lying and other behaviors begun and WHY?
I was told "When she hit puberty and her father's genes ignited!"
I think rather that it was about this "birds and the bees" point in her own reproductive life that she really began to realize that she was illegitimate and had no father in her life at all. Never mind if a loving grandpa tried to be "dad."
Let's say we understand her reasons why. Still chronic lying is NOT OK. It is at this level a symptom of mental illness or she has been and is MANIPULATING EVERYONE. She does argument, she does emotional blackmail, she does verbal abuse, she blocks conversations. But it is also a sign that a child that needed to be raised not to lie. This child needed to be corrected. If religious school was only to be rebelled against, then there is Godless psychotherapy. Clearly my arrival had nothing to do with YEARS of lies. Of other people who should know better raising her to allow her to lie to them, to go without responsibility into adulthood, and without any consequences or punishment.
So, I was stunned to hear that now I am officially not involved, after being asked to talk to her, asked to research, asked to be involved.
I am glad I never had a child. If I had a child though, I know for sure that mine would not be a spoiled brat!
C 2018 All Rights Reserved NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS BLOGSPOT.
USA - International and Internet Rights
Let me explain this deep insult, from a so called feminist yet. We real feminists know that it does not take giving birth or having a personal child, or being a mother, to know when we are dealing with a spoiled brat.
Let's call the spoiled brat, who I was previously told is a chronic liar and narcissist and drama queen and so on, "Melanie." Melanie is someone I had not seen since she was in diapers, that is true. In fact, her single mother (no father in the child's life ever, but a man who not only hid out rather than pay child support but apparently has fathered EIGHT children at this point, a real inseminator!) was acting so weird towards me back in the day that I decided I WOULD NOT SEE THEM AGAIN UNTIL THIS CHILD WAS A LEGAL ADULT. By weird I mean that this single mother took my interest in her child to be jealousy that she had her and I had none. Needless to say I was not jealous of her. I tried to respect that fact that she had not had an abortion and felt confident that she could do it all alone.
Now the child is an adult of 18, I have met her, I have spent time with them, I was warned she was screwed up, and I sadly got a triple dose of her obnoxious behavior, which I'm not supposed to react to or comment on.
Upon meeting me she did a news flash. "I don't believe in bras or marriage," she said.
I thought "That's interesting." Later I realized she had said this because she thought that would put her in good with me. Actually I have always worn bras, though not always the most concealing ones. Not all women need them all the time. But damn if this young woman went and eloped soon after, came back home and expected her mother to continue to support her financially. She argued that it was OK if she and her husband slept together in their house when they were just dating, why not now? Wasn't mom and other family members supposed to keep them in medical insurance, the latest laptops and cell phones, continue to pay for their college tuition, world travel, vegetarian foods, and so on - so they could stay in school? Neither she or her young husband thought marriage meant you go live together elsewhere - get your own place - land in the same bed every night together - and afford it on your own!
This was just the beginning of her lies to me - someone new in her life as an adult - distantly related - which added on to the lies - whole plots of them - that she told her mother and other relations.
For the next few months the entire family and household was in an uproar as one thing led to another. If perhaps we might think "OK, she is NOT your child, so there should be a boundary there, well, I cared, I tried to stay out of it, I tried to be the rational voice, and I tried to be realistic. Sure her single mother was going to go through empty nest syndrome. Sure her single mother had sometimes worked two jobs to keep her in a private school, send her to special activity summer camps. She also sent her to stay elsewhere when she had a man over. Didn't she deserve one night a week just for herself, to relax, have sex, etc? She also was career oriented and could be exhausted or seem to be in her own space. Was she actually neglectful? Not really.
When had the chronic lying and other behaviors begun and WHY?
I was told "When she hit puberty and her father's genes ignited!"
I think rather that it was about this "birds and the bees" point in her own reproductive life that she really began to realize that she was illegitimate and had no father in her life at all. Never mind if a loving grandpa tried to be "dad."
Let's say we understand her reasons why. Still chronic lying is NOT OK. It is at this level a symptom of mental illness or she has been and is MANIPULATING EVERYONE. She does argument, she does emotional blackmail, she does verbal abuse, she blocks conversations. But it is also a sign that a child that needed to be raised not to lie. This child needed to be corrected. If religious school was only to be rebelled against, then there is Godless psychotherapy. Clearly my arrival had nothing to do with YEARS of lies. Of other people who should know better raising her to allow her to lie to them, to go without responsibility into adulthood, and without any consequences or punishment.
So, I was stunned to hear that now I am officially not involved, after being asked to talk to her, asked to research, asked to be involved.
I am glad I never had a child. If I had a child though, I know for sure that mine would not be a spoiled brat!
C 2018 All Rights Reserved NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS BLOGSPOT.
USA - International and Internet Rights
3/26/14
L'WREN SCOTT SUICIDE and FUNERAL : I'M ADDICTED TO THE NEWS COVERAGE! WHY?
I have a really lousy cell phone that won't download any apps, but it does have a news feed on it that you can program. I chose to follow the news of the suicide of L'Wren Scott, high fashion designer and girlfriend (?) of Mick Jagger for thirteen years closely. I normally have the phone shut off all day, but I was checking that news hourly, all day, all night, and when I woke up in the middle of the night.
Not an especially fashionable person, I might not have heard of L'Wren if she were not associated with Mick Jagger. In fact, I first picked up the news because I was reading a book about the Rolling Stones and picked up that they were on tour.
The news was SPECULATIVE and REPETITIVE and therefore not much was new. As usual I suspected that the speculation became the official word and that reports of family strife were probably exaggerated. I thought how tough it must be to live your life and then have your death in the public eye, and the funeral is today! (That is, if they have the tight security at Hollywood Forever cemetery in place. I read guests will be delivered by car to tents. The tents should keep the photographers from taking close ups of Mick and family and friends crying their eyes out.
WHY AM I SO HUNG UP ON THIS STORY?
Well, I think it has to do with something that I have not seen any coverage on, and that is that L'Wren was raised as the adopted daughter of a devout Latter Day Saints Family and I wonder if she is still a believer or what it is that she (or Mick) actually believe, if anything, spiritually,
My guess is that she left that religion long ago, the way she left Utah for Paris modeling or Hollywood Stylist work, or New York based fashion design. One of the reasons I think this is that Latter Day Saints STRESS MARRIAGE, especially early marriage, and HAVING CHILDREN. I think that there are more babies being born to Latter Day Saints Couples than Catholic Couples here in the United States. I read that L'Wren was married to two millionaires before she chose to be not married to Mick Jagger for all these years, both marriages ending in divorce, who knows why. She was career oriented or she had fertility issues or they did or maybe she didn't want to bring children into marriages that ended a couple years into it.
My feeling is that because she was raised in this conservative religion that expects marriage and children she may have felt a failure and that may have been more important a failure than a fashion business that needed loans or restructuring or bankruptcy.
I wish she were more FEMINIST! But I think her feminine fashions were all about men and women having very different roles in life.
I too am speculating.
All for now,
Sister
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Not an especially fashionable person, I might not have heard of L'Wren if she were not associated with Mick Jagger. In fact, I first picked up the news because I was reading a book about the Rolling Stones and picked up that they were on tour.
The news was SPECULATIVE and REPETITIVE and therefore not much was new. As usual I suspected that the speculation became the official word and that reports of family strife were probably exaggerated. I thought how tough it must be to live your life and then have your death in the public eye, and the funeral is today! (That is, if they have the tight security at Hollywood Forever cemetery in place. I read guests will be delivered by car to tents. The tents should keep the photographers from taking close ups of Mick and family and friends crying their eyes out.
WHY AM I SO HUNG UP ON THIS STORY?
Well, I think it has to do with something that I have not seen any coverage on, and that is that L'Wren was raised as the adopted daughter of a devout Latter Day Saints Family and I wonder if she is still a believer or what it is that she (or Mick) actually believe, if anything, spiritually,
My guess is that she left that religion long ago, the way she left Utah for Paris modeling or Hollywood Stylist work, or New York based fashion design. One of the reasons I think this is that Latter Day Saints STRESS MARRIAGE, especially early marriage, and HAVING CHILDREN. I think that there are more babies being born to Latter Day Saints Couples than Catholic Couples here in the United States. I read that L'Wren was married to two millionaires before she chose to be not married to Mick Jagger for all these years, both marriages ending in divorce, who knows why. She was career oriented or she had fertility issues or they did or maybe she didn't want to bring children into marriages that ended a couple years into it.
My feeling is that because she was raised in this conservative religion that expects marriage and children she may have felt a failure and that may have been more important a failure than a fashion business that needed loans or restructuring or bankruptcy.
I wish she were more FEMINIST! But I think her feminine fashions were all about men and women having very different roles in life.
I too am speculating.
All for now,
Sister
C Sister/ Never Married No Kids BlogSpot 2014 All Rights Reserved.
9/28/09
5/30/09
FEMINISTE BLOG
Here's a blog in which various contributors are on the watch for sexism in our culture...
You're about to find some people who are not oriented towards marriage or children here...
You're about to find some people who are not oriented towards marriage or children here...
1/25/09
WWII FEMINIST POSTER
Dover Free ImagesHow many women through history have wanted to be men just so they could have adventures and leave the child bearing and care to someone else? Women even disguised themselves as men to fight in the American Revolution...
12/3/08
BEST FEMALE FIGURE NOT THE HOURGLASS? YAHOO NEWS
Check out this article (by clicking on the title above) from Yahoo News, which suggests that the hourglass figure does not give evidence for the best female figure if you're in a stressful business...
Previously I heard that women with a high waist to hip ratio were actually more fertile!
-Sister
Previously I heard that women with a high waist to hip ratio were actually more fertile!
-Sister
10/28/08
HALLOWEEN BRINGS UP THE PERSECUTION OF "WITCHES"
Halloween and it's celebration of the witch - sometimes depicted as a beautiful, sexy, "Good Witch," but more often the elderly ugly "Bad Witch" or "Hag," reminds Sister here of the fact that through history many NMNK women have been the ones suspected of, accused of, and convicted of witchcraft or sorcery. 
Though witchcraft no doubt existed and exists, from what I've learned about the subject, it is often those who are or appear defenseless because they have no familial or husbandly protection that are easily singled out for abuse, harassment, and victimization.
Today people who do not marry and/or have no children are still thought of as odd, and while some of them perhaps have little choice in the matter, many others do.
Because so many people live together in what would be marriage and so many people have children without marriage or living together or become parents through remarriage, today we may have to think about someone who is NMNK as someone who believes living alone is the best way of life for them. People who live alone may perhaps be celibate by choice as well so we may actually live a more monastic by choice existence than ever before. For some of us living alone may be about pursuing a more spiritual way of life and for some that more spiritual way of life includes practicing ritual, mantra, meditation, or magic.
Happy Halloween to our "Witchy" sisters and brothers who are "SOLO."
Though witchcraft no doubt existed and exists, from what I've learned about the subject, it is often those who are or appear defenseless because they have no familial or husbandly protection that are easily singled out for abuse, harassment, and victimization.
Today people who do not marry and/or have no children are still thought of as odd, and while some of them perhaps have little choice in the matter, many others do.
Because so many people live together in what would be marriage and so many people have children without marriage or living together or become parents through remarriage, today we may have to think about someone who is NMNK as someone who believes living alone is the best way of life for them. People who live alone may perhaps be celibate by choice as well so we may actually live a more monastic by choice existence than ever before. For some of us living alone may be about pursuing a more spiritual way of life and for some that more spiritual way of life includes practicing ritual, mantra, meditation, or magic.
Happy Halloween to our "Witchy" sisters and brothers who are "SOLO."
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