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NMNK CHELSY DAVY and the HARRY and MEGHAN WEDDING : NEWS COVERAGE WAS JUST SO WRONG!

MAY 2021

I guess all concerned are married now so this is a VINTAGE ARTICLE!

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Chelsy Davy is NMNK.

Chelsy Davy is one of US!

Damn if she wasn't the target of some speculative "news" reportage as she attended the recent royal wedding of long time bachelor Prince Harry and Meghan Markle, the American actress who is giving it all up - willingly - including her acting career, her religion, her U.S. citizenship, and her NK status, to be the wife of this royal.

Rumors were that Chelsy was shocked to not be invited to the wedding receptions.  What went on there - toasts to Harry remarking on his wild times - his women - might have been insulting to her.  (Were they pointed at her?)

But Chesy was invited to the Wedding itself.

There is she was, along with so many family members, close personal friends, and celebrities - who were invited to one or both of the receptions.

I tried to understand.  Was this meant to include her or to rub salt into wounds?

Chelsy Davy was once in a very long term relationship with Prince Harry.
Neither were married.  It was not suggested that this educated woman with a lawyering background and who is now a jewelry designer, was ever Harry's Mistress.  But OK, a half century ago she might have been assumed to just that.  Let's be clear: it was like she was Harry's first wife, but since they never married they did not divorce.  In fact, they became friends.

As I see it FRIENDSHIP IS VALUABLE.  When someone is a good friend to you, you don't just throw them away.

Rumor has it that her invitation came but so did a "last phone call" from Harry saying - have a nice life - to her, ending the friendship.  If so, you know what?  That stinks!

Have YOU been dumped by a friend - male or female - that you once dated or were once involved with - because they got married?

What?  Your friend will be too busy f*cking to remember to call you on your birthday or get together with you once in a while for coffee and not include you when they have a party?
Your friend will not introduce you to someone else you might want to date?

If so, you know what?  That's really shitty!

Granted Harry and Meghan are going to be two of the busiest people in the world.  They will tour the British Commonwealth and be Good Will Ambassadors, they have their charity work, and they are busy f*cking to start a family ASAP, since the Bride is ancient at 36 to start a family.  (I will not be surprised to learn that fertility treatments have begun, just as I suspect Charlene, Prince Albert II's wife had them.) Meghan is as qualified to fry it up a pan and make him feel like a man as any careerist woman, I suppose, but what happens if the two of them prove to be unable to have children naturally?

Chelsy was fine about the wedding.  Supposedly after this call she cried her eyes out, got it together, arrived with a smile on her face, like she was out for a good time, with her extra (called a plus one in Britain), a brother.  But then her face was invaded by photographers and video cameras and she actually appeared disturbed, like she was holding back tears.  These photos supposedly revealed what was going on in her mind.  Such as thinking "it could have been ME!"

Actually I doubt that's what she was thinking.  When a person who has been a good friend for years, and who had a difficult time finding someone who would marry him finds that person, it's emotional for you when you think they finally found happiness.  Chelsy had years to accept that she and Harry would never marry.  As his close friend and confidant I'm sure that he did talk to her about other women he dated.  I read that Meghan gave her a warm hug.  Meghan is confident in her position and does not seem to be putting in a big objection to Harry having women friends. 

Maybe Chelsy was feeling invaded and maybe Chelsy was thinking it was shitty to set her apart and not invite her to the reception.  After all, when Harry was depressed or in trouble because he once again did a Big Blooper, and he was infamous for them, did he actually call Oprah Winfrey?  Why was she there?

I have no idea if, at 32, Chelsy desires marriage to anyone or motherhood, but consider that she may not.  It's possible that her almost wifely status in Prince Harry's life intimidated other men from dating her.  They are like that about royals in Britain.  They don't want to effect their own status by even accidently tripping on Princely turf.  But consider the husband of Camilla Parker Bowles who had a "take my wife, please!" attitude when Prince Charles took interest in her.  Consider another favorite over in Britain, the recently and finally wed Pippa Middleton. who gave in to the man who had long loved her and wanted her, so married him and became pregnant almost immediately.  Consider the uninterested in marriage James Middleton.  Consider the long term relationship Princess Beatrice who is NMNK but also dated someone for years who broke with her and married someone else was in.

Aging in Place.  Aging with Grace!

It is my hope the reportage was "rubbish" and Prince Harry will call Chelsy on birthdays, meet to have coffee, invite her to parties, and introduce her to his friends, rather than snub a very nice and fun young woman who was important in his life for many years.

CHELSY is OK NMNK!


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WHEN ALONE IS LONELY - THE BROKEN TOOTH STORY

One of the notions of this blog is that ALONE isn't the same as LONELY.


I figure that few individuals are completely isolated and have no communications with other human beings.  I figure that most people who don't marry and don't have children are still members of family.  But what happens when everyone you used to know has died and you have no one to depend on in a crisis or to bury you?
This is one of the biggest fears anyone has.  It's a fear I have.  Even if it's a bit unreasonable right now.
I don't want my readers to think that I have no fear.


A few months ago I broke a tooth while eating almonds.  That chunk that broke off I thought was an almond piece stuck between teeth until I removed it.  Yikes!  So began SAVING THE TOOTH, an expensive and ultimately hopeless ordeal because the tooth continued to break off little pieces.  From the dentist's warning "I promised you that you will find yourself in a crisis with that tooth if you don't have it pulled", to the crisis (her refusal to give me antibiotics), I did nothing.  I've never had a tooth pulled.  I'm a coward.  The options to replace the tooth are also expensive.  I was warned I had to do some sort of replacement within a few months of having the tooth removed.  When I asked the dentist who refused me antibiotics what would happen if she got the tooth out in her office numbed up a bit, a process she said would take about an hour, and found horrible infection underneath it, she referred me out to an oral surgeon.  The oral surgeon said about the same thing.  I said I wanted to be put under.  My insurance doesn't pay for that.  I said I would pay for it.


Meanwhile the tooth continued to break, leaving less and less above the gum line to be pulled.


The day I scheduled the event, I was told "You have to have someone to bring you here and take you home and stay with you."


I said, "Don't worry.  I won't drive.  I'll call a cab."

"No. We mean we will not put you under unless you have someone to stay with you."  Now I imagined myself laying in the back of a car stuck on the freeway, all that auto exhaust building up in the back and making me sick while still a bit under the anesthesia, a totally nauseous thing to expect a friend to deal with.


"Can't I just hang out there for a couple hours in a chair after the procedure, and then take the cab home?

"No."


"Then let's not schedule."


So, I started to feel lonely.  But not so lonely as to marry just anyone or have children to take care of me in my old age!


I have friends who cannot take off work easily to attend to me.


It seems ridiculous to me that I've been refused antibiotics while being warned about an underlying infection and pending crisis.  I decided the tooth as is, a bit unsightly, is worth putting off treatment for.


I started seeing people with teeth broken to the gum line and left like that wherever I went.


I realized that the simple tooth pull is no longer a possibility.  It will have to be dug out.  It is now oral surgery for real.


Yes, I feel alone in this.


Sister



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FRIEND BEATS AGE 50 DEADLINE - IMPORTS CHINESE BRIDE

OOOOH how I hope this is a "miracle of love" situation.  I've learned a friend of mine, a man who never seemed to find a Ms. Right, though he met a lot of possibilities, imported a woman from China to be his wife.  She's an intelligent woman and speaks English. Much younger than him (I should say "of course").  Young enough that she could stay married to him for a decade, get a nice social security retirement out of it, divorce, remarry.

How did they meet?

Chinese-American friends made the match, then they were using Skype or equivalent for courtship.  He went there to marry her, and at the same time they honeymooned as tourists, saw the Great Wall.

I'd be completely rude if I didn't wish them a wonderful life.  Don't think I can't be happy for him/them because I can.  Hope springs eternal.

It's just that me and my girlfriends are a bit suspicious when an American man has to import.  We see the woman far from her family and support system, sometimes financially unable to leave if she wants to.

My old friend is someone who always has to have his own way.  He needs someone to live around him and make his life easier.  He's not someone who has ever physically abused another person, but he can be passive aggressive.  He has a good sense of humor.  Sometimes it's a bit wicked.

A mutual friend said, "Come on Sister, he's an A-hole!  The reason you're not close anymore is that as the years went by he became less and less flexible, less willing and able to meet you half way on anything.  You two used to go to films a lot.  It got to where if he wasn't picking the film, he wasn't going!"


Yea.


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DUMPED MY PLATONIC GUY FRIEND BECAUSE HIS NEW GIRLFRIEND...

and HIS KIDS, think he should not have any relationships with "past" women. This slam of BS occurred the other day and through an e-mail communication. My friend and I used to have lunch once or twice a month but a few months ago he seemed to disappear off the map. So, as a friend, I called once in a while, but he would say he was busy at work, or that we would have lunch, and then never seem to get around to calling back. He quit me. So wondering if maybe he was actually in financial trouble (Bernie, you know) or ill, I sent him a message asking him if he was angry with me. Open the conversation a bit, I thought.

Instead I got a message back from him that we could no longer go to lunch because this new girlfriend has moved in with him...

Hey this reminds me of being the single friend who gets dumped right after showing up at the wedding and giving an expensive gift.

ANYONE UNCOUPLED IS UNWANTED! THAT STINKS!

GOOD LUCK GETTING OFF THE SHORT LEASH my EX-FRIEND!