COMMITMENT PHOBIC ???? THE THANKSGIVING A RELATIVE TRIED TO MATCHMAKE ME WITHOUT SHOWING RESPECT FOR ME FIRST

I'll never forget the Thanksgiving that I showed up at a relatives for dinner and discovered that she had invited a single man to match make me.  No she never mentioned this to me when she was extending the invitation or at any time before I walked in there.  The man was a nice man, a good man, and he had a good income.  All that was true and perhaps for her that was ENOUGH to make him eligible.  But she never asked me if I had a boyfriend, if I was seeing anyone, if I was involved, or at all interested in being match made.

And when I couldn't hide my displeasure I heard her go to him and explain that I had a problem with commitment.

BULLSHIT!

It might not surprise you to know that I no longer keep a relationship with this relative who I discovered to be dishonest in the sense that she was always manipulating and designing rather than being straightforward and candid. 

Besides all this, the fact was that this man was very interested in getting married and having a family.
She told him I was family oriented.  That was true.  To my existing family.  I had no interest in actually becoming pregnant, giving birth, breastfeeding, or raising children though.  Still don't.

One thing that didn't happen?
I did not go out with him to please her.
I did not go out with him against my own instincts or wishes, where I would feel ensnared and possibly feel I had to come up with explanations and apologies for not being interested.
And though he possibly felt he had wasted HIS time and been duped, I didn't worry so much about his feelings in the moment to spend time talking to him; possibly he knew that she had made an error.

So you may wonder, HAVE I EVER MATCHMADE ANYONE?

The answer is no.

DUMPED MY PLATONIC GUY FRIEND BECAUSE HIS NEW GIRLFRIEND...

and HIS KIDS, think he should not have any relationships with "past" women. This slam of BS occurred the other day and through an e-mail communication. My friend and I used to have lunch once or twice a month but a few months ago he seemed to disappear off the map. So, as a friend, I called once in a while, but he would say he was busy at work, or that we would have lunch, and then never seem to get around to calling back. He quit me. So wondering if maybe he was actually in financial trouble (Bernie, you know) or ill, I sent him a message asking him if he was angry with me. Open the conversation a bit, I thought.

Instead I got a message back from him that we could no longer go to lunch because this new girlfriend has moved in with him...

Hey this reminds me of being the single friend who gets dumped right after showing up at the wedding and giving an expensive gift.

ANYONE UNCOUPLED IS UNWANTED! THAT STINKS!

GOOD LUCK GETTING OFF THE SHORT LEASH my EX-FRIEND!