I'll never forget the Thanksgiving that I showed up at a relatives for dinner and discovered that she had invited a single man to match make me. No she never mentioned this to me when she was extending the invitation or at any time before I walked in there. The man was a nice man, a good man, and he had a good income. All that was true and perhaps for her that was ENOUGH to make him eligible. But she never asked me if I had a boyfriend, if I was seeing anyone, if I was involved, or at all interested in being match made.
And when I couldn't hide my displeasure I heard her go to him and explain that I had a problem with commitment.
BULLSHIT!
It might not surprise you to know that I no longer keep a relationship with this relative who I discovered to be dishonest in the sense that she was always manipulating and designing rather than being straightforward and candid.
Besides all this, the fact was that this man was very interested in getting married and having a family.
She told him I was family oriented. That was true. To my existing family. I had no interest in actually becoming pregnant, giving birth, breastfeeding, or raising children though. Still don't.
One thing that didn't happen?
I did not go out with him to please her.
I did not go out with him against my own instincts or wishes, where I would feel ensnared and possibly feel I had to come up with explanations and apologies for not being interested.
And though he possibly felt he had wasted HIS time and been duped, I didn't worry so much about his feelings in the moment to spend time talking to him; possibly he knew that she had made an error.
So you may wonder, HAVE I EVER MATCHMADE ANYONE?
The answer is no.
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