NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS - An Intentional Community: January 2023

1/31/23

ASEXUALITY : A HOT TOPIC : HOW IT'S DIFFERENT FROM CELIBACY ?

I get a whole lot of hits on my post about ASEXUAL CELEBRITIES. A person who is asexual feels as though they are devoid of sexual motivation or sexual nature. They may be a very loving person, a sensual person, but they just don't get into sex. They can love deeply but see no need or have little to no interest in taking that love into the physical. This is the perfect way to be if you're a person who is spiritually based and participating in religious life that requires celibacy. A person may be asexual for a while or for life. They may be married and have children but no longer be interested. CELIBACY is not participating in sexual contact with other people as a chosen lifestyle, at least temporarily (the sexual fast after a break up and before another involvement for instance.) The person might like sex, even love sex, but feel that for now it's time out. While many asexuals are celibate, many celibates struggle with attractions, despite their decisions. I think the difference is motivation or attitudes. NMNK is a blog for everyone who is NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS, and being asexual or celibate are two possible ways to be NMNK.

(First published June 12, 2012)

1/30/23

JULIAN LENNON : NMNK : OUTLIVING THE LEGACY OF A DIFFICULT CHILDHOOD

The son of once-upon-a-time Beatle, John Lennon and his first wife, Cynthia, Julian Lennon has said publicly that he thinks he hasn't married or had children because of what he went through as the child. linking here to an article from The Telegraph, an English newspaper online : JULIAN LENNON BLAMES FATHER JOHN LENNON : NO CHILDREN : NO MARRIAGE

An excerpt
"Julian has, however, also shown understanding of his father’s situation – in particular the fact that he was a young parent who had himself endured a difficult childhood. John Lennon went 20 years without seeing his father Alfred and grew up living with his aunt Mimi, not his mother Julia.

Julian Lennon has also had difficult relationships with Yoko Ono and Sean Lennon, Yoko and John’s son.... "

(First published April 26, 2012)

1/29/23

I GOT CALLED A SPINSTER TODAY and... LOOSER TRAUMA

I GOT CALLED A SPINSTER TODAY and...

the guy who called me that (because I am never married, no children) informed me that it used to be if you were not married by 25 this was the appropriate word. Well, I know that some women are IN YOUR FACE calling THEMSELVES SPINSTERS... but I have to admit I was feeling offended by this guy. He has five children. Three in marriage, two not. And he has nothing to do with any of them at this point. He says that is their choice. Their mothers are with other men, other fathers. Now I don't know enough to judge him or I don't want to judge him badly about this. But he seemed to think I was terribly old fashioned. He told me that in marriage you have about 10 minutes a day with your partner and he called that BED TIME! Is there something wrong with wanting a lot more than 10 minutes a day and a life revolving around duty towards children?

(First published February 4, 2008)

LOOSER TRAUMA

The other morning a man who has five children, three in marriage, and says he may have more he doesn't know, about called me a looser for having never married. Well, I haven't brought ANY CHILDREN into this world, and I think, considering that he has no contact with ANY of HIS children, that I am the one who has behaved responsibly. He said I was "afraid of life." He said celibates were not normal. (My argument that there is a full range of sexual expression, including celibacy was something he was not going to hear. He admitted that he has a big porn collection.) WHAT LINGO or LABEL is BEST for those of us who have never had a child? HOW ABOUT NON-PARENT?

(First published February 13, 2008)

1/28/23

DR EMILIA SAM'S GROWN WOMAN's OATH

EMELIA SAM - THE GROWN WOMAN'S OATH

I WOULD LIKE TO KNOW MORE ABOUT EMILIA - IS SHE NMNK?

(First Published April 14, 2014)

1/27/23

FIFTEENTH BIRTHDAY of NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS - AN INTENTIONAL COMMUNITY : A CELEBRATION of THE BEST OF!

It was January 27, 2008 when first published a post on this blog, dedicate to the expose of what being NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS WAS ALL ABOUT. Though this blog has been changed visually a few times, it has always been consistent about the INTENT.

I asked this question :

WHO ARE WE?

Are these just STEREOTYPES of the NMNK?

INDEPENDENT, TOO INDEPENDENT, DEPENDENT?

HERMITS, FEMINISTS, VIRGINS?

DIFFERENTLY-ABLED, ECCENTRIC, SPOILED, SELFISH?

CELIBATE, REPRESSED, SWINGER?

STRAIGHT, BENT, GAY, BISEXUAL, QUESTIONING?

PRIESTS, NUNS, MONASTICS?

SPINSTERS, CONFIRMED BACHELOR, LONERS?

For me personally, there have been times when I was put on the defensive that having this blog to write was helpful. I do hope that posts that I made in the past have helped some of you determine where you fit in this... by CHOICE or by FATE. I hope some of you have realized YOU ARE NOT ALONE.

For those of you who have married and had children, I hope that finding this blog has helped you gain some understanding and empathy

In order to celebrate this event, I have gone through those fifteen years of posts to find the "Best Of." I've taken down some of the earliest years of the blog that appeared in 2008 through 2012 in order to feature these posts in the present. So for the next 60 days there will be a a whole lot of posting.

Thank You for Coming By!

Sister

COMMENTS REMAIN ON AS THEY ALWAYS HAVE BEEN!

1/26/23

WELCOME ! NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS - FIFTEEN YEARS OF BLOGGING ON THE NMNK LIFESTYLE

Coming up...

I'll be posting MANY of the best posts from 2008 when this blog began to 2012... You can always go through my archives to find posts from 2013 to the present.... If you are especially interested in my opinions, click on the label SISTER SPEAKS!

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