ONE IN FOUR OF YOU WILL MEET AGE 50 NEVER MARRIED

THE CONVERSTION - MORE PEOPLE THAN EVER BEFORE ARE SINGLE - and that's a good thing  by Bella DePaula, a social scientist from UC Santa Barbara


EXCERPT:
In fact, people who live alone are often the life of their cities and towns. They tend to participate in more civic groups and public events, enroll in more art and music classes, and go out to dinner more often than people who live with others. Single people, regardless of whether they live alone or with others, also volunteer more for social service organizations, educational groups, hospitals and organizations devoted to the arts than people who are married.
In contrast, when couples move in together or get married, they tend to become more insular, even if they don’t have children.

HAPPY VALENTINES DAY to all you NMNK!

For those of you who are not dating, or not dating someone who will remember to appreciate you on this, one of the most romantic dates on the Calendar here in the U.S.A,  I want to say HAPPY VALENTINES DAY. 

Looking through an old scrapbook of Valentines I received as a child, I'm reminded that not so long ago FRIENDS, SIBLINGS and RELATIVES, PARENTS, AUNTS and UNCLES, CLASSMATES - everybody gave everybody Valentines.  They could be cute, funny, dumb, corny, clever... the cards didn't have to BE ROMANTIC to be APPRECIATED.

Which means, you CAN SO CELEBRATE THIS DAY, without being involved romantically with ANYONE!

Sister

HAPPILY DINING ALONE : OVERHEARING THE UNHAPPY DATERS : SISTER SPEAKS

Once in a while I enjoy taking myself out to a restaurant and dining alone.  So often I'm seated near a group of women who spend their entire meal bitching about dating and men that ruin the meals of everyone in hearing distance!

I was so provoked to say a few things to these young women about men and dating that they might not want to hear.  I said nothing but left as soon as I finished my meal!

They were unhappy with dating.  Why do it?  No one HAS to date!  If it's to meet someone to marry, perhaps they should ask their parents, older sisters, or someone that they respect to ARRANGE their marriages!

They were unhappy with men.  It could be the men they are meeting and not all men on this earth, but OK, let's say all men are basically defective.  Then try women.

Men had treated them all badly in some way.  That's terrible but has it turned any of them into feminists?  Hopefully they all know that when a person treats another person without respect it's time to end the relationship before it turns into SINGLE MOTHERHOOD with NO SUPPORT!

I wanted to know:

If they ever do the asking out and if so do they make the plan and pay?

If any one of them has discovered a pattern such as being dumped or being the dumped, or being the one who asks the other person out and being the one who leaves the relationship.

SUMMER IS HERE.  DON'T RUIN YOUR SUMMER OVER DATING!  Get out there, have fun, make friends, and maybe you'll also have a romance.  No one will come knocking on your door uninvited!

C 2014