Valentine's Day is ahead and already NMNK are feeling the societal pressure to be included in the mushy love fest that this day has become. Not dating? Not interested in dating? Have no one "special." Haven't "made love" in ages - especially because you only attract people who see sex a different way? Well, consider that there are many ways to love and that includes PLATONIC.
Valentine's Day does not have to be about long stemmed red roses, candlelight dinners, or presenting yourself for sex wearing silk undies or something wicked and stupid from a lingerie store.
Spend it with friends. Or don't go out at all.
Send only the people you really care about Valemtines or chocolate. Such as your siblings or you dad.
Women feel more pressure than men to do SOMETHING for this day.
Men who are heterosexual feel weird to remember their men friends for Valentines.
So the pressure is on Men to celebrate this by "treating" the Women in their lives.
Men, if you ARE dating, if you are having SEX, if there is someone special who qualifies to be remembered...
If you DO NOT, chances are the relationship will be OVER or at least DOWNGRADED. You'll be considered cheap if you forget. But I caution you NOT to say you love someone (or give them that impression) if you DO NOT.
1/15/19
BROKE NOT CHEAP - AND WHY I DO NOT WANT A MAN
Why is it that when a man hears that I need (to earn more) money, he recommends I need a man?
No man has ever paid my bills.
Why start now?
And why would I need a RELATIONSHIP in order to be INDEPENDENT?
It's not that I don't need people.
I must say that when you cultivate other people who depend on you being independent, they may interpret your unusual need as neediness or codependency and go away.
I don't like that. I'm not like that.
One kind friend says he knows I'm "Short" right now.
I'm conscientious about that though.
I don't believe in lists and keeping things even compulsively but I give back when I can, in my own way.
He is not a "boyfriend."
Today I was lunching when a man struck up a conversation with me.
When he said I needed to get a man I felt he was trying to advertise himself. (He was not at all attractive to me by the way but I feel sure that I would have said the same thing if he were.)
I said, "Not at this time of my life."
"But you NEED someone," he said.
"I have friends," I said.
He said, "But are they the kind of friends who will take care of you?"
He meant take me in.
I have been taken in by friends in the past.
Generally it didn't work so well.
I didn't say that.
I did say (and this is the truth) "All my friends have taken someone in."
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No man has ever paid my bills.
Why start now?
And why would I need a RELATIONSHIP in order to be INDEPENDENT?
It's not that I don't need people.
I must say that when you cultivate other people who depend on you being independent, they may interpret your unusual need as neediness or codependency and go away.
I don't like that. I'm not like that.
One kind friend says he knows I'm "Short" right now.
I'm conscientious about that though.
I don't believe in lists and keeping things even compulsively but I give back when I can, in my own way.
He is not a "boyfriend."
Today I was lunching when a man struck up a conversation with me.
When he said I needed to get a man I felt he was trying to advertise himself. (He was not at all attractive to me by the way but I feel sure that I would have said the same thing if he were.)
I said, "Not at this time of my life."
"But you NEED someone," he said.
"I have friends," I said.
He said, "But are they the kind of friends who will take care of you?"
He meant take me in.
I have been taken in by friends in the past.
Generally it didn't work so well.
I didn't say that.
I did say (and this is the truth) "All my friends have taken someone in."
C 2019 Never Married No Kids BlogSpot
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