Some of you may have slept around or be sleeping around now and HATE IT!
It's assumed that if you do you must LOVE it!
Are you the exception?
If you hate it, why do you do it?
2/18/11
2/14/11
A VALENTINES DAY WEDDING CANCELLED!
Sister here! It has happened to a friend. She decided last year that she was going to get married this year. She said that God had given her visions and had ordained that she marry. Well, a mutual friend (who had a long distance relationship at the time, an engagement) was her first target. It didn't work out because he went on the road. Then she met a much younger man. How much younger? Let's say less that 20 but more than 15 years younger. And out of a rehab when she herself has never had an addiction. After several months of dating she determined that this was the man who God had planned for her. But her siblings objected to the man and the speed of the engagement. For her the engagement meant that it was OK to have sex.
Fast forward to about a month ago when she announced that another year had gone by and for sure the two of them were getting married. ON VALENTINE'S DAY. Considering that they had broken up only recently when she discovered that he had broken his sobriety, I was shocked.
But you want to be happy for someone else when they find LOVE right? It turned out that trying to find a minister and a place to hold the wedding at the last minute is near impossible, because VALENTINES DAY is a POPULAR DAY to be married! And it turned out that his drinking, that break in sobriety, was not a one time mess up but the start of a lot of partying, particularily as the wedding day got closer. Let's face it. He can't face life without a drink. Even the prospect of marrying her was not cheering enough.
So the wedding is cancelled. She's probably smart not to go forward with this wedding, or this relationship, and I feel for her, because she is laying in bed crying and depressed!
But this is what happens when you are DESPERATE to be married and you make the very next person who comes into your life MR or MRS RIGHT!
Sister
Fast forward to about a month ago when she announced that another year had gone by and for sure the two of them were getting married. ON VALENTINE'S DAY. Considering that they had broken up only recently when she discovered that he had broken his sobriety, I was shocked.
But you want to be happy for someone else when they find LOVE right? It turned out that trying to find a minister and a place to hold the wedding at the last minute is near impossible, because VALENTINES DAY is a POPULAR DAY to be married! And it turned out that his drinking, that break in sobriety, was not a one time mess up but the start of a lot of partying, particularily as the wedding day got closer. Let's face it. He can't face life without a drink. Even the prospect of marrying her was not cheering enough.
So the wedding is cancelled. She's probably smart not to go forward with this wedding, or this relationship, and I feel for her, because she is laying in bed crying and depressed!
But this is what happens when you are DESPERATE to be married and you make the very next person who comes into your life MR or MRS RIGHT!
Sister
2/11/11
2010 NATIONAL SEX SURVEY !
The CENTER FOR SEXUAL HEALTH PROMOTION is behind this survey, which made the news as the largest survey in many years. Click to the link and then, if you want to, click to the graphs that show, by age category what sexual activities were reported by men and women (not identified as straight or gay).
2/1/11
PLAYBOY and PLAYGIRL MONTH
Sister here: Let me tell you about a casual platonic friend I have, who I'll call Jay, one of those NMNK who's a PLAYBOY. (I want to avoid the term PLAYER here because it has come to mean PIMP. I'm not talking pimps or prostitution here, I'm talking about promiscuity, which seems to be indulged in for fun, without abusing the lover in any way!)
When you know how Jay lives, loosing his virginity young and never since celibate, often in love but rarely moving a relationship into what he calls "getting stale," you have met the consummate PLAYBOY. I have yet to hear him talk negatively about any of the women he's been involved with though he does LET THEM GO! When he talks about enjoying sex, he talks about how beautiful women are, how good they smell, and how, after an orgasm, he loves to just look into their eyes.
Jay is almost 42 and has never been married and has no known children, despite the fact that he has, for years, had at least four three-month-long relationships a year, and is often sleeping with more than one woman at a time; you'd expect that someone's contraception would have failed by now. He is handsome, charming, talented, and goes through bouts of being penniless, but women don't seem to care. They are willing to pay for dates, buy him presents, and let him share their apartments without paying rent. Those women are PLAYGIRLS too!
To be fair, we have to devote a month to those NMNKs who ARE PLAYBOYS (and PLAYGIRLS) like Jay! These are people who do not seem to be easy come easy go!
Where to start?
It seems that many people, usually in their youth, make PLAY an experience BEFORE finding a life partner or "settling." Many people believe it is only through playing they will meet such a person!
Is Jay a heartbreaker, "in love with love?, a man who "really loves women?" A bum? What about the women he gets involved with, several who have also been honest about being involved with other men at the same time!
We'd like to hear from the PLAYBOYS and PLAYGIRLS out there!
Sister
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When you know how Jay lives, loosing his virginity young and never since celibate, often in love but rarely moving a relationship into what he calls "getting stale," you have met the consummate PLAYBOY. I have yet to hear him talk negatively about any of the women he's been involved with though he does LET THEM GO! When he talks about enjoying sex, he talks about how beautiful women are, how good they smell, and how, after an orgasm, he loves to just look into their eyes.
Jay is almost 42 and has never been married and has no known children, despite the fact that he has, for years, had at least four three-month-long relationships a year, and is often sleeping with more than one woman at a time; you'd expect that someone's contraception would have failed by now. He is handsome, charming, talented, and goes through bouts of being penniless, but women don't seem to care. They are willing to pay for dates, buy him presents, and let him share their apartments without paying rent. Those women are PLAYGIRLS too!
To be fair, we have to devote a month to those NMNKs who ARE PLAYBOYS (and PLAYGIRLS) like Jay! These are people who do not seem to be easy come easy go!
Where to start?
It seems that many people, usually in their youth, make PLAY an experience BEFORE finding a life partner or "settling." Many people believe it is only through playing they will meet such a person!
Is Jay a heartbreaker, "in love with love?, a man who "really loves women?" A bum? What about the women he gets involved with, several who have also been honest about being involved with other men at the same time!
We'd like to hear from the PLAYBOYS and PLAYGIRLS out there!
Sister
C 2011 All Rights Reserved including Internet and International Rights
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