FAKE NEWS STORIES - NEWS ROT - THE NEGATIVE EFFECT ON YOUR PYSCHE

About six weeks ago, I finally started e- reading, mostly books.  It was time.  I had noticed that I was reading Daily Mail UK too much, though the publication does have some excellent coverage of "hard news," such as the Presidential election, it's very driven by the 'soft news" of celebrity, especially women so desperate for attention that they are exhibitionists, and coverage of inhuman acts and terrorism.  I started feeling that nothing was right with this world, and that's simply not true.  I had also grown unhappy with my news AP, which I upgraded and still don't much like.   There's nothing like a news AP to reveal how repetitive the news gets and how few real journalists there are, fact checking, making sure that an issue has coverage from more than one point of view and isn't just a PR piece being placed in as fact.  Then there is the spectacle of FAKE NEWS STORIES, which do come up on news APS and which I had to work my way through, when wanting to know the real story, about the hacking scandals, the election, and much else.  FAKE NEWS STORIES waste our time.  Reading e-books of my choice has drastically cut down on the amount of time I'm reading information that I can't rely on and that I don't want to color my outlook negatively.


It occurred to me that those who do not have the constant and chronic overwrought of child bearing and raising, though rarely living lives of leisure, might actually expose themselves more, and that all this might be having a profoundly negative effect on us.


Consider that the Daily Mail UK seems to always have the expose on abusive parents, especially those who torture and kill their children.  It's not that I don't want to know these things happen, it's that it seems that people without ethics and morals of any sort, sociopaths, psychopaths, people a whole lot like Charlie Manson and his ilk, are everywhere.  It's as if evil is taking over the world.


Not having children myself does not mean that I hate children or that I'm not a child advocate!  In fact, understanding what a child needs to prosper, even feeling at times that no person should be allowed to raise a child who hasn't completed special classes to learn how to, is one of the many reasons I chose not to have children.  I know that I do not have the resources.


Over the holidays I was thinking about all the children in the world who are born to die, the children who labor to support themselves and their families and never go to school, the girls who are sex trafficked or raped or sold into slavery or married off before they can safely have sex, be pregnant, and deliver a baby.  Because these are often people "of color" and in the so called "Third World"  one has to be sensitive to cultural differences and expectations, but IF EVERY CHILD IN THIS WORLD WERE WANTED, and FURTHER, COULD BE AFFORDED BY IT'S PARENT(S), THERE WOULD BE NO OVERPOPULATION!


This year I don't know how often I will have to face off with, or walk away from, or ignore, people who want to find fault with me, people who want to think of me as defective in some way, for not having children.  This discrimination against me and my type seems to be never ending.  WHEN OTHER WOMEN are finding fault with me, I really have to wonder what their version of feminism is, if any.  Nothing is worse than a woman who defines herself by motherhood and then raises brats!


To me, any publication that propagates the notion or belief that being NEVER MARRIED - NO KIDS is not a valid and proper choice for some of us, is basically a FAKE NEWS outlet.


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JENNIFER ANISTON - BRAD PITT - and ANGELINA JOLIE and ALL THOSE CHILDREN

Though JENNIFER ANISTON, the actress, does not qualify as NMNK since she has been married twice, she has gone through hell as a woman who has never had children, and for that I can relate.  Though the years her childlessness has been used against her, not only in attacks on her character (when she has conducted herself as a lady throughout!), but as the reason hunky BRAD PITT left her for the snarky ANGELINA JOLIE, or as the excuse for cheating on her.  (Jolie had done her first adoption before the two met.)  IT HAS BEEN ASSUMED THAT PITT's DESIRE FOR CHILDREN and ANISTON's RELUCTANCE (blamed on selfishly wanting her career as an actress more) or INABILITY, made her defective.  TABLOIDS have had a go on all of them for years, and now all those children are being dragged through a divorce and the question of who has custody, who gets to visit, how often, and when.


ANISTON seems to have left town for New York to be out of the way as much as possible through this latest divorce with children debacle, and I'm feeling sorry for BRAD, who probably has gotten angry with a spoiled brat child and lost his temper at least once.


(FRIENDS OF MINE WHOSE PARENTS WERE VERBALLY ABUSIVE TELL ME THAT WHEN THEY HAD CHILDREN THEY FORGAVE THEIR PARENTS AND UNDERSTOOD WHAT IT IS TO HAVE A CHILD YOU WORK  YOUR TAIL OFF TO SUPPORT BEING A SASSY ASS OF A KID!)


With the vast wealth of both JOLIE and PITT,  there is really no reason why their children need to be seen out in public, looking depressed, as all this goes on.  And if the couple were not world famous, it is unlikely the FBI, which has better things to do, like work against terrorist cells in the United States, would spend five minutes interrogating the apparently blind sided Pitt, who no doubt is probably SICK over the prospect of being separated at all from his brood.


I FULLY EXPECT, in the future, that all six children will write TELL ALL BOOKS ABOUT THEIR PARENTS, and how hard it was to grow up as they have.


It's not fair, what do I know?  I think the children should live with BRAD!


JOLIE IS WRONG that children do not need structure or discipline.  Discipline is possible without ABUSE.  I know this because I know of people who have well behaved and respectful children who have never been verbally or physically or otherwise abused.  AND IF I HAD CHILDREN, those are the CHILDREN mine would be allowed to play with!


Let me focus though on JENNIFER ANISTON.  Here is a beautiful and accomplished woman who has worked hard to have and keep a career, and she has had so much projected on her.  The day the news of the pending divorce came out, speculation became gossip became "truth" as she supposedly said, to an unnamed "friend," that Brad was getting his KARMA.  I suspect she has long ago moved on and into her new marriage and doesn't much have Brad on her mind at all.  Additionally, the poor woman cannot gain a pound and the pregnancy speculation begins...


IT WILL BE OK IF JENNIFER ANISTON DOES NOT HAVE CHILDREN, NOT ONE, NOT EVER!


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THE JOLIE-PITT DIVORCE and BAD PARENTING

MAY 2021 THE DIVORCE IS STILL NOT OVER.  I think Angelina is dragging it out to keep Brad in her life!

The Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie divorce is hot in the news, and I've been reading around it.  It seems there is a major difference in these two when it comes to their own childhoods and parenting styles.  Brad grew up with discipline.  Angelina, according to certain articles I read, was even allowed AT THE AGE OF 14 to have sex in their own home by her mother; the star says she was going to have her way and her mother preferred she have it at home than some other place.  Other articles say that the six children these two will be effecting by their divorce, three  who were adopted, and three born of the couple, each have a nanny, have been tutored and traveled the world but never spent a day in school, and are, well, BRATS. 

Frankly, I've been sick of Jolie for a long time for a lot of reasons but I'll stick with her desire to be seen as the world's best mother, her motivation for having the innards of her breasts removed and later the removal of her ovaries, because she's convinced she will die young like her own mother.  Unlike one British publicist who has written that Jolie should have settled down and been a wife to Brad rather than a globe-trotting activist and careerist (who supposedly wants to live in England, give up her citizenship, and follow in the footsteps of Lady Diana), because she stole Brad Pitt from Jennifer Aniston, I have nothing in particular against a woman having high career aspirations.  But I do have it against people who have children, DO NOT SOCIALIZE THEM, have them and do not want to PERSONALLY TAKE CARE OF THEM, and who basically use their children to THEIR OWN EGO ADVANTAGE.

Granted the Jolie-Pitts are very wealthy, and they can afford to do world travel, have nannies, and tutors.  However, it is up to the parents to oversee that their staff brings up all the children consistently and socialized, which means in sync with the way people treat other people in this world.

I do not think all children are brats.  And, as I've said in this BlogSpot before, not personally wanting or having children doesn't mean I cannot have an opinion on what it takes to have children, what they deserve, and how they should be raised.

I've encountered more than one lousy, spoiled, brat in my life - other people's children.  These brats didn't have the effect of making me not want children.  They had the effect of my stepping aside the parents.

To discipline a child does not require abusing them physically or otherwise. 

For instance, one of my professors in college had one of those bothersome mandatory potlucks at the end of the semester.  This woman was not a single mother, though her husband was nowhere in sight at the potluck.  Her children were running all over the place, and one of them struck me with a long plastic dagger, which could have blinded me.  I said, "You're kid just struck me with that."  The professor said, "She always does that."  Was I to say, "Could you mind your bratty child and discipline them that they should not use their toys to possibly injure someone?"  She was giving me grades. 

In a work situation, a twelve-year-old son of the business owner, studying for his Bar Mitzvah yet, came in and with his hands on his hips, told me how I work for HIM and bla bla bla.  They just stood there and let him talk to me this way.  I hear the kid has grown up to be a doctor.  I wonder how bad a parent he is.

One of my friends with a high powered and exhausting career, married and had two children, but her husband cheated on her and they divorced.  His willingness to parent was not remarkable, he was mostly the absent father who stood up the kids when he was supposed to be seeing them.  However, the kids took full advantage of the situation and their nanny didn't dare discipline them, and when I came to visit or called, they were selfish and demanding, screaming and yelling, and at best negotiating for material rewards for activities such as doing their homework.  They defied her every wish that they not have friends in the house when she wasn't home.  Last I heard from her, she realized that "professional help" was needed; therapists.

So Angelina Jolie was and is a SPOILED BRAT herself, and her idea of parenting is that an adult cannot tell a child what to do, can never get angry, can never tell them off.  And she wants to use Brad's anger that he felt with their oldest son, a young teenager, against him in the divorce.
I hope by some miracle that the six children of this union turn out to be adults who can get along with others from all walks of life and know how to share, rather than egotistical, demanding materialistic and greedy.  If they are truly as has been reported, it will take a miracle.

Contrast this with the reports of the children of the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge, who have been seen using an active listening technique to discipline and teach their royal children to behave.


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