THOMAS ROBERT MATHUS is the man in the picture. He was an economist.
2/14/19
2/4/19
THE "IN LABOR" ABORTION CONTROVERSY
I'm Pro-Choice.
Pro-Choice means everyone gets to choose for themselves.
Being Pro-Choice isn't the same as being Pro-Abortion.
You can be Pro-Choice without ever wanting to have an Abortion yourself.
Being Pro-Choice means that you understand that other people have different values.
Since this blog is about NMNK - Never Married No Kids people, contraception and abortion is a fair topic. Because if you're a sexual woman, there's always a chance that your contraception will fail, or that you will be raped some time when you are not using contraception. And then you have the choice to have an abortion.
I met a young woman recently who was very responsible at 18, both on the pill, and using protection,
She was raped by a stranger and has PTSD.
If she got pregnant by rape and wanted an abortion, an early abortion, I could understand that.
Women should not be punished by pregnancy.
At the same time, I must admit to you, third term abortions are already legal in many places, so long as you can find a doctor willing and afford it. I know someone who did this, at about 7 months. She'd been having an affair. She was close to 40. The man she was having an affair with was blond. She and her husband black haired. I accepted her choice. From what I was told later, her extremely expensive (wiped out their life savings) legal third term abortion was carried out without anesthetic in a high rise building office. She got the doctor's name from a clinic that does only first term abortions.
Still, I must admit that the thought of aborting a viable fetus, a fetus that is called a baby once outside the body of the mother, that can live and breath on it's own and is not likely disabled in any way, is upsetting to me. Because there have been all those months before to make a decision and do something about it.
In actuality I think few women ready to give birth would opt to have their fetus aborted. And few doctors are willing to do so, especially not openly.
Listening to discussions on this issue over the weekend on radio stations that are conservatively biased, I must admit also that I think the law is a prescient for other changes that we as a society would not like.
For instance, what about the pressure put on someone without resources to have an abortion. This pressure can be put on a woman by a governmental agency, such as a welfare agency social worker through disapproval.
Though it is my choice to be a NMNK person, I realize that most people do not idealize this option.
I've met the women who were shamed and embarrassed by abortion clinic personnel because they could not come up with the money for their abortion early on. In fact, my friend who had her 3rd term abortion many years ago had no way to get the money for an earlier abortion. The financing is what sometimes makes women wait. I said that she used her and her husband's life savings to pay for the third term abortion. She needed to get him on her side for this and he did. He never spoke about it with her again.
She didn't tell him she was having an affair.
She said she had not suspected she was pregnant and thought she was going into menopause.
She said she was worn out from caring for their difficult child already and felt too old to do another 20 years of childcare.
She said she had been using cocaine and other illegal drugs.
All the doctor wanted to know, off hand, was why she waited. She lied about the cocaine and other illegal drugs to him too.
Today there are so many contraception options.
Yet it is true that many women cannot take the pill or find certain methods difficult.
So unplanned pregnancies happen. A lot.
If you're sexual, you MUST have communication and agreement on what happens if.
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Pro-Choice means everyone gets to choose for themselves.
Being Pro-Choice isn't the same as being Pro-Abortion.
You can be Pro-Choice without ever wanting to have an Abortion yourself.
Being Pro-Choice means that you understand that other people have different values.
Since this blog is about NMNK - Never Married No Kids people, contraception and abortion is a fair topic. Because if you're a sexual woman, there's always a chance that your contraception will fail, or that you will be raped some time when you are not using contraception. And then you have the choice to have an abortion.
I met a young woman recently who was very responsible at 18, both on the pill, and using protection,
She was raped by a stranger and has PTSD.
If she got pregnant by rape and wanted an abortion, an early abortion, I could understand that.
Women should not be punished by pregnancy.
At the same time, I must admit to you, third term abortions are already legal in many places, so long as you can find a doctor willing and afford it. I know someone who did this, at about 7 months. She'd been having an affair. She was close to 40. The man she was having an affair with was blond. She and her husband black haired. I accepted her choice. From what I was told later, her extremely expensive (wiped out their life savings) legal third term abortion was carried out without anesthetic in a high rise building office. She got the doctor's name from a clinic that does only first term abortions.
Still, I must admit that the thought of aborting a viable fetus, a fetus that is called a baby once outside the body of the mother, that can live and breath on it's own and is not likely disabled in any way, is upsetting to me. Because there have been all those months before to make a decision and do something about it.
In actuality I think few women ready to give birth would opt to have their fetus aborted. And few doctors are willing to do so, especially not openly.
Listening to discussions on this issue over the weekend on radio stations that are conservatively biased, I must admit also that I think the law is a prescient for other changes that we as a society would not like.
For instance, what about the pressure put on someone without resources to have an abortion. This pressure can be put on a woman by a governmental agency, such as a welfare agency social worker through disapproval.
Though it is my choice to be a NMNK person, I realize that most people do not idealize this option.
I've met the women who were shamed and embarrassed by abortion clinic personnel because they could not come up with the money for their abortion early on. In fact, my friend who had her 3rd term abortion many years ago had no way to get the money for an earlier abortion. The financing is what sometimes makes women wait. I said that she used her and her husband's life savings to pay for the third term abortion. She needed to get him on her side for this and he did. He never spoke about it with her again.
She didn't tell him she was having an affair.
She said she had not suspected she was pregnant and thought she was going into menopause.
She said she was worn out from caring for their difficult child already and felt too old to do another 20 years of childcare.
She said she had been using cocaine and other illegal drugs.
All the doctor wanted to know, off hand, was why she waited. She lied about the cocaine and other illegal drugs to him too.
Today there are so many contraception options.
Yet it is true that many women cannot take the pill or find certain methods difficult.
So unplanned pregnancies happen. A lot.
If you're sexual, you MUST have communication and agreement on what happens if.
C 2019 Never Married No Kids BlogSpot
All Rights Reserved
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