ARE YOU BLACK SHEEP OF YOUR FAMILY ?

ARE YOU THE BLACK SHEEP OF YOUR FAMILY?

Recently I learned that psychologists often view the person who is the Black Sheep in the family to be the healthiest person in it.

Often the Blacksheep is the person who admits there is a problem and that means others have to change. Though sometimes it's just a matter of being "different" as in the one who hasn't married and had children.

In a dysfunctional relationship (be that the family of origin or the "family at work) people are somehow assigned or grow into their roles and even if they're sick roles and they get used to being in them. The Black Sheep on the other hand, wants change.

When the Black Sheep wants change, the others who don't want change or who are afraid to change may be mightly compelling in their behavior to keep the status quo, even if the status quo is sick.

They may kick the Black Sheep out of the family or fire them at the office, BLAME THEM entirely for the problem, or be exceptionally critical and judgemental against them. By abandoning or isolating a family member, as in the case of shunning, that person's overall situation is weak. They will no longer have the benefits of being a member of the so called "building block" of society - the family!


If they love their family (or need their job), and many do despite everything, they may go back and agree to their old role, rather than not have any connection at all.

ARE YOU THE BLACK SHEEP OF YOUR FAMILY?



Sister

S is for SINGLE !

Be proud to be SINGLE with no sense of SHAME !

Keep a crummy marriage? Now that's INSANE!

PICK YOUR VIRTUES !

VIRTUES we can all aspire to!

This is a comprehensive list but if YOU can think of more virtues, by all means tell me !

WHICH OF THESE VIRTUES DO YOU VALUE THE MOST?
Which are you REALLY BAD AT?

EMPATHY, HELPFULNESS, FAIRNESS, TOLERANCE, CARING, COURAGE, HUMOR, RESPECT, LOYALTY, COURTESY, PATIENCE, RESOURCEFULNESS, PEACEMAKING, SELF-RELIANCE, SELF MOTIVATION, RESPONSIBILITY, HONESTY, TRUSTWORTHINESS, SELF DISCIPLINE, COOPERATION

EMPATHIE, UTILITÉ, EQUITABILITÉ, TOLÉRANCE, S'INQUIÉTANT, COURAGE, HUMOUR, RESPECT, FIDÉLITÉ, COURTOISIE, LA PATIENCE, RESSOURCE, RÉTABLISSEMENT DE LA PAIX, INDÉPENDANCE, MOTIVATION D'INDIVIDU, RESPONSABILITÉ, HONNÊTETÉ, FIDÉLITÉ, AUTODISCIPLINE, COOPÉRATION

HEY THERE LONELY GIRL (This one's for Peter) EDDIE HOLMAN

SORRY NEVER BEEN KISSED but I couldn't resist!  Sister

P.S. Can you imagine the teasing Eddie Holman took growing up with this voice? And what a wonderful voice it is!

PETER's 53 and NEVER BEEN KISSED ! (Great Going Peter!)

We just picked up a comment from Peter, which you can find below. OK PETER, WE THINK YOU OUGHT TO CALL THAT PRECIOUS LADY IN GREAT BRITAIN WHO CAN SING HER HEART OUT BUT HAS NEVER BEEN KISSED EITHER!

SERIOUSLY THOUGH, we don't have anything against people being straight or gay or bisexual by nature here and being CELIBATE is also part of human sexual diversity !

The question is (and your therapist sounds like he should get HIS head shrunk by the way) ARE YOU OK with this ? ARE YOU FEELING UNDER PRESSURE FROM YOUR THERAPIST TO CHANGE?

Whatever, Peter, just be sure to create a full life for yourself.

Answer your needs for the spiritual, as well as the physical and the material!

Sister

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