UGLY PORTRAYAL OF A SPINSTER

This came up when I put the word SPINSTER

into the search engine... 

She is unsmiling and therefore portrayed as unhappy.  The term comes from one of the earliest opportunities women had who were "skilled labor." Spinning yarn and thread to be woven into clothing, pre Industrial Age machinery.  Now a fine and rare art. The term indicated that the poor woman would have to earn her own living.  Though the clothing is from the pre 1920's age of beginning liberation, today the term SPINSTER is still used to describe women who remain unmarried - with a negative judgement of them for their lack of conformity to the norms. Bachlorette is an improvement. Never Married No Kids - NMNK - is the best term for women and men who remain unmarried and childless.

Things have changed though.  

It used to be that a woman who showed her intelligence was an undesirable partner.  As a result education opportunities were limited or nonexistent. The term "BLUESTOCKING" was used for women who showed their intelligence. Women were raised to be dependent and go into marriages they could not escape.  What a horrible way to be forced into 'faithfulness' and 'loyalty.

Even elite women went to school only to be turned into wives and mothers.  A little needlepoint.  A little French.  But not math or science.

Now so many are depending on themselves and so many are the sole earners supporting and raising children. More men are looking to be stay at home dads and be supported by their wives who have education and careers. 

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MOTHERS REPORT THEIR REGRET OVER HAVING CHILDREN

DAILY MAIL (UK) ONLINE : FEMALE : WOMEN REPORT REGRET AT HAVING CHILDREN 

The reluctant parents, from around the world, have shared their stories anonymously in a Facebook group called I REGRET HAVING CHILDREN...

Loss of freedom, difficult decisions, feeling trapped, having children they didn't want...

I feel for them, but not having children, if you want them, is probably worse,

IT USED TO BE NEAR IMPOSSIBLE TO CONTROL YOUR FERTILITY

Many women died in childbirth or after giving birth. While no contraception is 100% reliable, especially because human beings aren't reliable, THE FIRST THING WE SHOULD BE DOING IS PRACTICING SAFER SEX. But even if you are sure of your sex partner, and they of you, unless you are ready, willing, and able to bring a child into this world, raise it and support that child to maturity, using CONTRACEPTION is the way to go. DOUBLING UP ON METHODS can increase your chances of successfully preventing pregnancy and abortion. This means using condoms along with another method.  It requires the cooperation of both partners.