A worry many people have, especially NMNK women, if that they will have no one to take care of them in old age. I JUST HEARD A STATISTIC that in LA COUNTY ONE PERSON IN FIVE has no one to be there for them in an emergency!
However, having children with the idea they will be there to care for you during illness or old age or emergencies is no good reason to have them. WHY?
Well, because there is no guarantee that they will.
They may die before you, go to live far away to follow a career or dream, or you may have a bad relationship with them. I used to visit neighbors who had gone into assisted living and can say that many a parent was neglected. These people had resources and were not letting the government or charity take care of them. However, they were jealous of the time I spent as a friend with an older gentleman who had never married or had children due to blindness he acquired as a teenager. This man managed to work anyway but was dependent on an older brother who was not coping.
Covid-19 shut downs and changes that have come with being marooned or limited in our movement include reconsidering relationships. For some there is more closeness, for others more distance. I'm encountering more people who are entering senior years feeling they can not afford to live...
Of course having some relationships you can count on does help.
I hope that NMNK seniors can find each other, honestly discuss their needs, and bond together to check on each other and help each other.
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