WHY EVEN LIVE TOGETHER? IF YOU'RE SINGLE AND SELF SUPPORTING ENJOY YOUR OWN SPACE!

I was reading a magazine that focuses on the YOGA lifestyle, a healthy, spiritual lifestyle, and there was an article written by a woman who discovered she was pregnant two weeks after a break up after which He had moved out.   She considers this pregnancy to be somehow fated, perhaps because now she is 38.  Without knowing the specifics of the relationship and the whys of the break up,  if she told him or where the hell he was, I wondered why she was so determined to go forth as a single mother bravely.

I had to ask myself...

WHY EVEN LIVE WITH SOMEONE ELSE?  Why take the chance that your little experiment in compatibility might end with you both going your own ways?

LIVE WITH... as in "living in sin", shacking up, Cohabitation...

The unwillingness to meld households and finances with an official legal ceremony is pretty telling, isn't it?  LIVING TOGETHER is mostly NOT MARRIAGE.  It is mostly NOT COMMITMENT.  (And here I'm not referring to those who would if they could, have same sex marriage.)

Unwed and capable of supporting yourself without being supported by someone else, WHAT IS THE POINT OF LIMITING YOUR OPTIONS when you are NOT REALLY SURE this person is it for you?  If you were really sure you would probably marry.

Hey, I know that lots of couples are living together, some in COMMON LAW marriages, and I know that most often it is combining income and resources that makes saving money possible and sometimes real estate affordable.  Most often it is combining income that makes HAVING A CHILD or CHILDREN affordable.  Real estate and children - security - is a good reason to have a commitment with another person, a means of surviving and thriving.

But say you are doing fine independently.  Maybe you live in a single or a room in a house with a separate entrance, if you cannot afford your own condo or single family home, but you can afford to do so. 

IS THERE SOME REASON TO HAVE A SPERM DONOR LIVE WITH YOU?

So, if you are willing to have a baby on your own,  WHY were you "JUST living together"? 
Instead of taking the anonymous sperm donation option?  Considering how much involvement this person will have with you and your mutual child...

I wonder...

is she even going to TELL him he's the father?  (He has the right to know.)
is she not telling him because she doesn't want him in the child's life (because once there is a child it is not all about her life!) 


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