ELLEN PECK is a WOMAN WE ADMIRE here at NMNK - An INTENTIONAL COMMUNITY . This is an archived article circa 1976. It goes to show you that many of our issues are still issues.
"The government is not neutral. In addition to the $750 per child exemption allowed by the Internal Revenue Service, the federal government implicitly subsidizes childbearing through welfare, social security and housing policies. The standard argument goes, "It's for the sake of the children." Doesn't it make sense to make not having children just as acceptable?"
3/5/10
SPRING HAS SPRUNG (Funny I think I said that last year) and LOVE IS IN THE AIR !
Hello friends. Spring is in the air. Just wanted to let you know I am still around... and no I have not forgotten about you NMNK's... how could I living it every day myself?
You know, sometimes when you're like me and you just have not prioritized getting married and having children, you feel defensive. That's because we are certainly in a minority. Our agitators like to think we are heartless, cruel, and selfish people... but I think not!
Yes! I have been in love! I'm a human being too. But thus far I have had the strength to reject those who would not make good life partners for me. I don't pray for a husband before I go to bed at night. I am not bitter. I am satisfied to live alone without being lonely! MAYBE I'm FATALISTIC or A TRUE ROMANTIC AT HEART? MAYBE it's all or nothing for me?
Recently I heard from a pen pal of mine who at 32 had never found love. My friend is from a Central American country and he really seemed to be to be "too picky!" Imagine me saying that about anyone! But since he claimed to want to get married and have children, and he seemed to have one old girlfriend he had not given entirely up on and another of several years who seemed to be keeping him at a distance and ignoring his marriage proposals, I wasn't sure what to think!
What if it was HIM?
I really am happy for him now because yes he has met someone, he is in love, she loves him too, and he is planning to marry if the relationship is still as good as it is right now in one years time.
In fact I told him I thought a year was enough to know... Whatever you do, I said, do not let this go on and on to nowhere as you have in the past with other women!
MOSTLY I'M RELIEVED that, as it turns out, all this waiting and hoping he did for the last decade of his (young!) life was not about being a commitmentphobe. He is capable of love and commitment.
That's important because CHOOSING to be a NMNK is also about being capable of love and commitment! Loving yourself above all others on this earth, there are times when sadly, you must let someone go. And a commitment to a RESPONSIBLE LIFESTYLE is very important too! It is what has lead some of us to not have children we cannot provide for, as an example.
Spring has sprung and I hope it is full of love for you - love possible in all its varieties!
Sister
C 2010 Sister/NMNK an INTENTIONAL COMMUNITY
All Rights including Internet and International Rights Reserved
You know, sometimes when you're like me and you just have not prioritized getting married and having children, you feel defensive. That's because we are certainly in a minority. Our agitators like to think we are heartless, cruel, and selfish people... but I think not!
Yes! I have been in love! I'm a human being too. But thus far I have had the strength to reject those who would not make good life partners for me. I don't pray for a husband before I go to bed at night. I am not bitter. I am satisfied to live alone without being lonely! MAYBE I'm FATALISTIC or A TRUE ROMANTIC AT HEART? MAYBE it's all or nothing for me?
Recently I heard from a pen pal of mine who at 32 had never found love. My friend is from a Central American country and he really seemed to be to be "too picky!" Imagine me saying that about anyone! But since he claimed to want to get married and have children, and he seemed to have one old girlfriend he had not given entirely up on and another of several years who seemed to be keeping him at a distance and ignoring his marriage proposals, I wasn't sure what to think!
What if it was HIM?
I really am happy for him now because yes he has met someone, he is in love, she loves him too, and he is planning to marry if the relationship is still as good as it is right now in one years time.
In fact I told him I thought a year was enough to know... Whatever you do, I said, do not let this go on and on to nowhere as you have in the past with other women!
MOSTLY I'M RELIEVED that, as it turns out, all this waiting and hoping he did for the last decade of his (young!) life was not about being a commitmentphobe. He is capable of love and commitment.
That's important because CHOOSING to be a NMNK is also about being capable of love and commitment! Loving yourself above all others on this earth, there are times when sadly, you must let someone go. And a commitment to a RESPONSIBLE LIFESTYLE is very important too! It is what has lead some of us to not have children we cannot provide for, as an example.
Spring has sprung and I hope it is full of love for you - love possible in all its varieties!
Sister
C 2010 Sister/NMNK an INTENTIONAL COMMUNITY
All Rights including Internet and International Rights Reserved
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