ALL THOSE LETTERS....
GAY LESBIAN BISEXUAL TRANSGENDER NEVER MARRIED NO KIDS
I've been reminded that while some heterosexual people who are NMNK are accused of being one of those - gay lesbian bisexual or transgender people - some actually are, and I feel I've neglected those of you.
I learned that there is another definition that fits with the others sometimes
GENDER NON CONFORMING
In the sense that I have never been motivated to have babies, some people would think this is how I am.
Growing up I know that when my school opened wood shop and metal crafts to female students some of us took those classes. It was so sexist! At the time males were allowed to take cooking and sewing!
Some of us took electives or side classes like POWDER PUFF MECHANICS!
It was considered a good thing for females to know how to change their own oil. And soon we were all pumping our own gas and that sure eliminated some service station jobs.
If you were a woman who was good at auto mechanics it was assumed you were lesbian.
Unless you were also married to a man, a macho man.
So are we STILL assuming that a woman who is an auto mechanic is lesbian, or is she GENDER NON CONFORMING!?
I think you might be as confused as me.
Must you be in a body that LOOKS feminine to be a WOMAN and enjoy CONFORMITY OF GENDER in order to be Transgender?
I am not a girly girl.
I remember going through a faze where I despised the color PINK.
I was an artist, and an experimenter with media, including mud and dyes, from a very young age. I also drew hundreds of portraits of dancing girls, all with different costumes.
What if I was obsessed with drawing dancing men, what would that make me.
I like my body as is, and am satisfied that I'm female, but my unmarried, childless status, puts me into question, a new category.
Anyone else out there feel like me?
9/16/17
HOMELESS NMNK - THERE IS NEAR NO HELP FOR THE CHILDLESS, THE CLEAN LIVING, THE LAW ABIDING
This is a sobering post, because I'm one of thousands in Southern California who loves their independence and prefers it.
Over the last year the stats are that there has been a 23 % increase in homelessness IN ONE YEAR. It's estimated by a census, which means those who were available to be counted and is probably an extremely low count, that 50,000 are homeless in Los Angeles. It's difficult to understand stats from this area, because the COUNTY of Los Angeles has many cities that are or are not included in certain stats. Some of these, such as Santa Monica, have their own stats.
Over the last few months several people I know have been effected by the RAPIDLY INCREASING COST OF HOUSING, and since over 60% of those living in the CITY of LA are RENTERS, and the cost of owning a home is making it increasingly impossible to do so, so many people are STUCK where they currently live, if indeed they are free from rental increases.
If you are young, vital, recently educated, and just starting a career in this big city, you may be able to deal with paying a couple thousand for a one bedroom apartment, or three thousand to share with a roommate. BUT IF YOU ARE NMNK, you may not WANT to deal with room mates after college days. You may equate adulthood with being able to afford independence.
My street has been effected by the construction of yet another "EXCLUSIVE" building, and we are so sick of hearing that term as well as the term LUXURY when the square footage is cramped, the parking is not adequate for the residence of the building or the street, the faucets are not gold plated, and the carpets are not plush and laid over concrete. For two years we put up with noise, violations to the city ordinances about when hammering and yelling must cease, dust and garbage, and trucks bringing materials and carting away refuse. Then the place opened, with a Major Domo kind of man, very smooth, as the leasing agent representative. He assured everyone who asked that they would have no trouble getting tenants. He said from out of state, such as from Manhattan. Overall, it sounded like to me that these would be people transferred by their companies, or who were so used to ancient buildings, small spaces, and higher prices, that they would not know better here - at least not for a while.
It took six weeks to get the place rented, and the cars overflowing our street were expensive.
A security guard/doorman was assigned to the spot, a good idea, since we have graffiti, vandalism, and so on in the area.
Soon after this, the landlords on the street began raising rents, usually with 30 days notice, a small period of time to entrap tenants, with$300 a month rent increases. As some people fled, unable to pay this rent, the signs of availability started to go up. An old building displaced a senior citizen with a rent of $1575.00 for a one bedroom. A building that had a sign up from the City of LA telling tenants to put their rents in escrow because the owner had failed to do demanded repairs, fired the management company, raised the rent, and did the repairs.
On I could go.
I presently have an associate, a mom with two children, who has been renting an RV in a driveway for nine months, another associate, a single mom, who has after two years in with her mom, been granted a single in another town for a miracle $400 a month, another person with a disabled child who after over 20 years in the same place was given 6 months notice of a DOUBLING of RENT, and at month 5, near homeless, was granted a senior building voucher and got in there, someone else who could no longer afford after 23 years living in a vehicle, and so on.
SO I STARTED LOOKING FOR RESOURCES - HELP FOR THESE PEOPLE.
If you are NMNK you have near no resources.
If you are a single mother yes, a family yes, drug addicted yes, mentally ill yes, and already on SSI or SSDI yes. But if you have not brought children into this world you can't afford, if you are employed or self employed, if you are healthy, if you are sane, THE STREET is WHERE YOU MAY END UP.
I'm asking YOU to check out what your area has when it comes to resources for people like us!
Advocate for us to be recognized as worthy of help.
Over the last year the stats are that there has been a 23 % increase in homelessness IN ONE YEAR. It's estimated by a census, which means those who were available to be counted and is probably an extremely low count, that 50,000 are homeless in Los Angeles. It's difficult to understand stats from this area, because the COUNTY of Los Angeles has many cities that are or are not included in certain stats. Some of these, such as Santa Monica, have their own stats.
Over the last few months several people I know have been effected by the RAPIDLY INCREASING COST OF HOUSING, and since over 60% of those living in the CITY of LA are RENTERS, and the cost of owning a home is making it increasingly impossible to do so, so many people are STUCK where they currently live, if indeed they are free from rental increases.
If you are young, vital, recently educated, and just starting a career in this big city, you may be able to deal with paying a couple thousand for a one bedroom apartment, or three thousand to share with a roommate. BUT IF YOU ARE NMNK, you may not WANT to deal with room mates after college days. You may equate adulthood with being able to afford independence.
My street has been effected by the construction of yet another "EXCLUSIVE" building, and we are so sick of hearing that term as well as the term LUXURY when the square footage is cramped, the parking is not adequate for the residence of the building or the street, the faucets are not gold plated, and the carpets are not plush and laid over concrete. For two years we put up with noise, violations to the city ordinances about when hammering and yelling must cease, dust and garbage, and trucks bringing materials and carting away refuse. Then the place opened, with a Major Domo kind of man, very smooth, as the leasing agent representative. He assured everyone who asked that they would have no trouble getting tenants. He said from out of state, such as from Manhattan. Overall, it sounded like to me that these would be people transferred by their companies, or who were so used to ancient buildings, small spaces, and higher prices, that they would not know better here - at least not for a while.
It took six weeks to get the place rented, and the cars overflowing our street were expensive.
A security guard/doorman was assigned to the spot, a good idea, since we have graffiti, vandalism, and so on in the area.
Soon after this, the landlords on the street began raising rents, usually with 30 days notice, a small period of time to entrap tenants, with$300 a month rent increases. As some people fled, unable to pay this rent, the signs of availability started to go up. An old building displaced a senior citizen with a rent of $1575.00 for a one bedroom. A building that had a sign up from the City of LA telling tenants to put their rents in escrow because the owner had failed to do demanded repairs, fired the management company, raised the rent, and did the repairs.
On I could go.
I presently have an associate, a mom with two children, who has been renting an RV in a driveway for nine months, another associate, a single mom, who has after two years in with her mom, been granted a single in another town for a miracle $400 a month, another person with a disabled child who after over 20 years in the same place was given 6 months notice of a DOUBLING of RENT, and at month 5, near homeless, was granted a senior building voucher and got in there, someone else who could no longer afford after 23 years living in a vehicle, and so on.
SO I STARTED LOOKING FOR RESOURCES - HELP FOR THESE PEOPLE.
If you are NMNK you have near no resources.
If you are a single mother yes, a family yes, drug addicted yes, mentally ill yes, and already on SSI or SSDI yes. But if you have not brought children into this world you can't afford, if you are employed or self employed, if you are healthy, if you are sane, THE STREET is WHERE YOU MAY END UP.
I'm asking YOU to check out what your area has when it comes to resources for people like us!
Advocate for us to be recognized as worthy of help.
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