DO PEOPLE REALLY MAKE THE NEW YEARS RESOLUTION THAT THEY WILL NOT DATE, HAVE SEX, OR MARRY?

They do!

But I actually never have.

One might think, because I write this blog, that I've totally given up or find distasteful the very idea of dating, having sex, or getting married.  Not true.

I'm devoted though to going without a relationship unless it's right, and it's not that I think there is only one Mr. Right for me, or for anyone; I really do not expect perfection.  But I also do not care to pretend someone who is not right for me is, in order to be part of society.  I know I'm not perfect and others are not perfect.  I get that.  It's just that the longer I live, the more people I know who have divorced because they married for all the wrong reasons (or some of the wrong reasons) such as "It's about time."

I'm not talking about marriages that are abusive which should never happen at all.  I'm talking about incompatibility that was overlooked or not dealt with in the first place.  Years go by and suddenly the couple realizes theses things.  It's tragic when there are children involved.

I think, if you're going to have even one child, first find a great partner and then willfully have that child.

I don't hate children.

I just know that I cannot give a child what all it deserves.  Again, not expecting perfection.  If I had a child I might even have to home school it, rather than send it to a bad school.

So there!