SISTER SPEAKS : BABY BUMPS ARE THE HOT ACCESSORY FOR WOMEN!
My first instinct is that men (still) have it better in every way than women. But since this blog is about NMNKS's and intends to be supportive or people who have chosen not to marry or have children, I want to give consideration to my men readers, who are of both gay and straight sexuality.
I think gay men have it worse than men in general.
But I think gay women have it worse than gay men.
The reason I think that a NMNK heterosexual male has it easier than a NMNK heterosexual female is that there is historical support for the bachelor, who is seen as someone justifiably busy with this career, be that the military or rock and roll, or his avocation - even if that is a Player.
The world is still sexist enough to assume that when a man does something it has to be more important than if a woman does the same something - except when it comes to parenting.
But hey, men are becoming sperm doners (and nothing but) in record numbers, stranding their conquests and making those few minutes of loving or fucking a career of (single) motherhood for the woman. Some have even 22 children with many different women and are on the Public Dole, and not getting too much hell for it. A man can still claim bachelorhood and be cool even when he has children because he deposited them with his BABY MAMA.
WHEN A WOMAN HAS CHILDREN HER LIFE IS DEFINED BY MOTHERHOOD. WHEN A MAN HAS CHILDREN HIS LIFE IS STILL DEFINED BY WHAT ELSE HE DOES! I'm sorry, but while things have been s l o w l y improving for women, not much. Women are still burdened by more parenting, care-giving, and housework.
It seems I lived my life trying to prove to myself and others that YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE TO BE DEFINED BY YOUR BIOLOGY, THAT BEING BORN IN A FEMALE BODY DOESN'T MEAN THAT I AM OR AM NOT GOOD AT CERTAIN BEHAVIORS OR ACTIVITIES, THAN BEING BORN FEMALE SHOULD NOT EXCLUDE ME FROM OPPORTUNITIES OR LIFE EXPERIENCES TAKEN FOR GRANTED BY MALES.
When I was in my twenties television shows such as the one that promotes gay males as having an INNATE ABILITY TO DESIGN like "Queer Eye" would have been an outrage. But now we are tolerant of the idea that this is so BIOLOGICAL.
Occupations such as Hairdressing, Interior Design, Cooking, occupations that were once PINK GHETTO because women were thought to be good innately are DOMINATED by men who usually get paid more or have more successful businesses doing what women used to be choose from.
BIOLOGY HAS BECOME THE REASON AND EXCUSE for a lot of things.
PMS for murder, for instance. (P l e e z e !)
30 years ago we would have been very upset about all the products for kids that are either girly pink or boyly blue out there. We would not have wanted to raise our children with toys that would limit their experiences. We would have let our boys play with dolls and are girls with guns, if we were not against violence.
Now I talk to teenage women and they talk to me about their nails. They seem to be more interested in nails (and getting men) then anything else. That has to be RETRO but they think its MOD!
I never met anyone in my high school who was obsessed with their nails. Even the females (and one male) who polished theirs had better things to do with their lives than obsess about their nails as a fashion statement that would clue the world into WHO THEY ARE. Nails were just part of GROOMING!
Today, going back 50 years to magazines focused on celebrities, Babies - Pregnancies - and CELEBRITY MOMS (the Kardashians as a big example) make the headlines. ALL THOSE BABY BUMPS. YES BABIES ARE THE ACCESSORY ITEM FOR WOMEN.
We NMNK don't do babies as accessories!
But we're still HOT!
Sister
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