I'm not sure how this got started as I haven't even lived near my Godmother for the majority of my life for her to see me or not see me holding babies but as a child, no I was not eager to hold other people's babies. They seemed heavy, they seemed wiggly, and I was probably feeling as though I might accidently drop the baby and be in big trouble. After all I was still a child. (Why do people thrust their babies at others to hold anyway? Probably they feel they need a BREAK!)
She never said anything like this to MY FACE and I suppose I should call her on it, though what difference would it make? She's now quite old. She got fired as my GODMOTHER long ago; for years I was conned by her into believing that everything she said was the truth and learned that she has done a lot of PR in her time, and probably what was really behind her comment is her need to promote herself as SUPERMOM. In case you are wondering, she never fulfilled the role of a GODMOTHER in my life. She never was concerned for my spirituality and she didn't become a substitute mom for me when mine died.
For sadly, my GODMOTHER never had a chance to be anything else in this life but a wife and mother. She never had any education past high school. She never fully supported herself or worked a full time job. She got pregnant before she got married but the marriage worked. Being the mother of TWO is her claim to fame because they did turn out well, as have her grandchildren. I have no idea if she wanted more children. I've always assumed that she only had two because that was the NUMBER GOD GAVE HER (along with some sort of preventive medical condition) or because at least she and her husband were smart enough to know that was all they could afford. The doing well part is because they could afford college for their sons who could afford college for their children.
But then, as her children grew up, my GODMOTHER was the go to person for many of my relatives when they needed free babysitting services. This was something my own mother actually didn't want. I was not left at my GODMOTHER'S house to roam in a troop of village children. Though we showed up to visit and attended many family events my same GODMOTHER calls this "We never really got to know you."
I suspect my GODMOTHER thinks there are all sorts of things I personally and my parents ought to be GUILTY about!
As a teenager I baby sat my fair share of children and some were still in diapers. Most were not. Most were OK kids, a couple were horrid, and the parents never paid anything close to a minimum wage. That tells you just how valued mothering and child care was. The three kids I babysat the most were really good kids, well behaved, respectful, sometimes fun.
None of the children I babysat made me think "Wow! Someday I'll have my own!" I suspect that my GODMOTHER thinks I am ABNORMAL because I'm NMNK... And sadly people like me make for being an easy target for people like her.
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