Celebrities have no private lives really, unless they make a real effort to hide out, which some do by owning huge homes and staying in them. Reading over various posts on the net today, I learned that Brooke Shields said that Michael Jackson was naturally asexual. Other posts debate about Oprah Winfrey as an explanation for her NMNK status. Lady Gaga just put out a hit song called "Born This Way" with a video that is highly sexual, but they say she is celibate not asexual.
But guess what? YOU CAN STILL GET MARRIED and YOU CAN STILL HAVE CHILDREN or ADOPT OR RAISE CHILDREN and be asexual.
I would love to know how many asexual people do just that!
UPDATE October 2022 I've decided that Lady Gaga isn't asexual... but as I look back at this 10 year old post, I realize that very few celebrities admit to not having sexual feelings.
4 comments:
Hi. I am one such woman. I am asexual, married and have 2 kids. However I did not realize I was asexual until about 15 years into my marriage and we already had children by that point. It is a daily struggle to maintain a sexual relationship with my husband. He knows that I am asexual so he does not push the issue. But in the end I know he is sexual and so we do not live in a completely sexless marriage but sex is very rare.
Tinyt
I'm an older woman who is just realizing that I am asexual.
I was married twice. One time for 4 years. The second time for 22 years. I have two grown sons. My husband and I seperated due to my not wanting to have sex with him.
It is really hard if one of you is so called normal and the other is asexual.
But, now I'm really happier not having to pretend I like getting all messy and everything.
If we could have just kissed and hugged and been close like that, I would have been very happy. But, that not what he wanted.
I'm a single 27 year old black trans-woman from Atlanta, Georgia.
I fall more into the pansexual category, but I am often labeled as asexual and do go through asexual phases. One of the main reasons that I am a pansexual with asexual tendencies.
I haven't been in relationship, since late 2010. I really haven't been seeking one, while I've realistically only had a crush on two people -- a globetrotting, goofy fun-loving native Japanese man who is very humble and sensitive, he's especially asexual and nearing his 40s (doesn't want children), very youthful in his personality and appearance. Next person is a lady who wears funny orange glasses who is a few years younger than me. She has a very bubbly personality and innocent, yet very much world weary and quite the debater.
Unlike alot of people, I'm just not attracted to people purely on the basis of their looks and size of their body parts. People often look or snicker at me when I say that I do not have physical preference in a person. I guess somewhere destined and written in the laws of the universe you have to like a person, specifically a certain look, body part, or thing that makes you go wild. Though, I will say I am probably a little more attracted to women and other trans people (men/women), more so than men in general. That's not to say I wouldn't cherish or love a really good-hearted, interesting man.
It ends up being kind of weird, because most people who ask me out or request sexual favors from me ... tend to be (the slimy, shallow type) men in the "tranny" chaser crowd or the men just looking for raw sex, even when I make it clear that I am only looking for friends and not casual sex partners.
I really have come to despise the word normal, which typically equates straight, sexually active, raw physical attraction to specific features of the opposite sex, and sex with a regular frequency. I feel like our society, especially has put so many labels on what is the correct sexuality (which is heterosexual and a degree of fetishism, I do not really think emphasize finding a person based on things beyond looks). Sexuality is and should be framed as being fluid, like it is in most of the animal kingdom, even with mammals. People are so dominated by value systems or the correct way, which can demonize differences in others. In regards to sexuality, I do not think people should be demonized in anyway in regards to heterosexuality, homosexuality, bisexuality, asexuality, pansexuality, specific fetishes, and etc. Any rhetoric that tries defend that particular sexuality is better than another is completely false. Sex is only destructive and reckless as much as you act destructive and reckless with regards to sex or your life in general.
I am asexual. I'm 58, married once from age 27 to age 35, formerly very hetero. I look like sex oozes from my pores, apparently. I probably could have lived my life a virgin, and didn't have sex until 18. I am a free spirit. I am not puritannical. I have no religious beliefs that would make me think sex is bad. I have experimented. I have had over 50 sexual partners. I have had orgasms, both self induced and otherwise. I like men. I don't like sex. Or shall I say, I don't like that sex has become so paramount in this society that it eclipses all else. It's nothing more than a distraction. It keeps people occupied in their mortal existence, although I do know people who claim they have "spiritual" sex. I have never met, or been with a man, whose sole interest has not been to get his own dick off. Sure, many will do this little manipulative act and use foreplay to be all about the woman. I have never, let me repeat, NEVER been with a man who has gifted me with an orgasm and did not have one himself. I, on the other hand, have gifted many men with orgasms when I was not particularly in the mood or otherwise inspired. Perhaps there is a way to transcend our animal instincts and make sex a lofty and spiritual experience. I am weary of searching for that, and in truth, am quite satisfied with just letting the whole sex thing go. An entire world is hypnotized into thinking sex is paramount with eating and sleeping. Let them continue. I have dropped out, and do not feel unfulfilled. If I need an orgasm, I have one. I don't need to play the game and spend my time with a man just because he has a penis. Those days are long gone. I have more than paid my dues by having sex with men whose interests were purely selfish. I have more time. I no longer have to deal with pregnancy scares, disease potential, yeast infections, and regrets. Been there, done that. Not worth it. I do not judge people who are mesmerized by sex. It's just where they are on their path in this life. Live and let live. But understand there are two sides to that coin, and just because I still attractive, intelligent, voluptuous, and what I have been told "fuck-worthy" that I am relieved that getting older has seriously reduced the occurrences of being chased like a dog in heat. I will never miss that. I seek a relationship where two partners can honor, respect, and genuinely love each other and want to be together based on the simple fact that they enjoy each other's company, not based on what each one can do for the other. Does it exist? I hope so. Still hopeful, after 3 years of celibacy. If not, I quote Marilyn Monroe "I would rather be lonely alone, than lonely WITH someone." From what I understand, she too leaned toward being asexual. Hollywood used sex to make money off her. She lived a meager lifestyle, despite her success. It's just not worth selling your soul in order to gain material wealth. In sexual relationships, it's still all about prostitution. Giving your body over for something else. May not be money. It may be getting your husband off in exchange for some sort of false security. If you are a woman, I guarantee you are a prostitute even if you don't accept money, or even if you are married and in a loving committed relationship, including marriage. I know I justified my prostitution by reasoning that men will be men, and it's the least I can do to make them happy. Plenty of mercy sex doled out here. No more. Much more simple now. Hope this helps anyone who is interested in understanding.
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